Ok, I would like to know if anyone has ever had a friend that had been too much? Like you hang out all the time and when you needed space from them they got all up set and you felt like you had to break up with a S'/O or something. If you did, how did you go about it, what happened and any advice?
2007-02-25 07:07:47 · 11 answers · asked by sereneimp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had two friends like this.
They were all over me 24/7. Yet, if they do not come over, they will call or text me.
By time, things start to irritating me. My husband starts complaining that he needs time to be alone in his house & we need to spend time with each other without them.
One night, one of the two friends was doing the second visit in the same day. She start arguing with my husband about some social topics, then things went far & my husband give her an example about her coming over all the time & without a phone call.
Afterward they changed the subject & she lift late as if nothing happened.
She called the other friend & told her about the discussion she had with my husband.
Both of them turned against me in an unethical & an immoral way.
They decided they do not want to know me anymore & they went telling lies about my life. They told my sister that my husband is abusing me.
People believed them because they were my best friends for the last 4 years.
To cut it short, I had to do damage controls to get my life back.
Since then, I decided to narrow my social life to 10%.
It was a painful experience for my family & me. In addition, it took me long time to balance my life because I am very sensitive.
So, I recommend -if they start smothering you & get to your nerves- you should start cutting down on going out with them & make yourself busy with anything useful in life.
As I believe, a healthy friendship is like love.
My friends must respect my privacy & I will respect theirs.
2007-02-25 07:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a situation were both myself and my friend werent dating anyone and we hung out together all of the time. When either one of us started dating, it became uncomfortable for the other because we felt like we were lonely or something. I made a point of making "girl" time with my friend so that she knew that she wasnt losing me. She began to understand that I needed time for myself and that I was still their for her if she needed me. If this is truly a BEST friend, they will understand that you just need time for yourself sometimes.
2007-02-25 15:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by Doris A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, so one time my friend stayed over at my house (well we're not friends anymore) and I got sick of her. I just didn't really feel like hanging out. So she thought I was mad and she left. Like it felt like she was opening up my home to herself. She left.
Another time with the same girl, we went to Wisconsin together, on the way there we were having fun, and I was opening my self up to her mom and everything they were offering to me. I knew this becuase she was acting the exact same way I was, so I knew I was getting on her nerves. We were still friends, but we were just seeing a bit to much of each other.
2007-02-25 15:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs space away from others. I think it makes it more fun/interesting if you don't talk every day, or see each other every day. It gives you more to talk about. Maybe they need to find other friends to hang out with too.
2007-02-25 15:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive had a simular situation! u c if im around my freind 4 a certain amount of time sometimes me and her get a lil irratated ..when u c ur freind bring other freinds along that way ur not only wth him ....try not 2 talk 2 him eveyday ...and if hes 1 of those friends who always calls just tell him u g2g or ur buisy when he does trust me hell get the message
2007-02-25 17:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by jazzyj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be honest with them... that you do enjoy spending time with them, but you need a little more time on your own to (insert here what you'd rather be doing with your time)... it might hurt them a bit, and they might react poorly to you, but, it might be what's best for you.
PS. upset is one word.
2007-02-25 15:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I HAVE BEEN IN THAT SITUATION. LIKE THAT PERSON GETS ANNOYING. JUST DO WHAT I DID. TELL THEM YOU NEED TIME ALONE FOR ABOUT A WEEK OR WHEN EVER YUR READY
2007-02-25 15:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lisette G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had a fight. didn't talk for 2 weeks. became friends again.
2007-02-25 15:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should b honest wit them and tell them how u feel about them...
2007-02-25 15:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your friend
2007-02-25 15:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋