like his job ,office, money matters,transactions etc.whereas i am a real inquisitive girl trying to know each and every thing from him.but i fail in all my attempts miserably.we've been married since 3 months and i know nothing. otherwise hes a real sweet guy and we love each other very much .
any suggestions plz !!!!!!!!!
2007-02-25 07:01:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him a little space. He will tell you if it is something maor, but men aren't really intrested in gossip. Why not tell him about some intresting things from your day instead of asking him about his. He might feel like he is being interrogated by all of your questions. He comes home to relax and forget about the office and jobs. You are newlyweds, relax and have fun together,
2007-02-25 07:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, what he does at work is not that interesting or he doesn't want to think about work while he's at home. If anything I think he is just not use to talking to someone about his day.
You could start by asking him how his day was and if anything interesting happened. If he doesn't say much then continue on and talk about your day. One day he'll chat about his day it may just take some time, perhaps he is just not use to telling someone about his day. Let him know that your there to listen but he's not obligated to tell you about his day.
The money issue should be addressed though, you are married and you should have a say as to where the money is going. I guess, keep asking but try asking in a different way. Start by asking what you can do to help with the bills and what happens to the rest of the money after. If your not at all interested and are getting whatever you want as far as money goes, I wouldn't be too concerned. After all, who wants the stress of paying the bills and all the other headaches that come with money issues.
If I could pass on this job to my husband I would in a heartbeat. Unfortunately, he's fine with how the money is used and wants no part of it. I ask about his day and am not bothered by the typical okay thing. I know that on days that are particular stressful he will talk about it and he knows I'm there to listen and give advice if needed. Good luck.
2007-02-25 07:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are things you have a right to know (not gossip as suggested here), Money matters? Come on.. You are married. If he can't trust you with these issues something is wrong. If he's hiding things, something is wrong. I just can't see being married to someone like this. You are life partners and these are things that are shared and planned together. I would not stay in a relationship like this unless he was willing to change. It sounds like he is very controlling in this way. It will not get better unless you speak up and put your foot down.
2007-02-25 07:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we should about somebody personal matter before marriage. because after marriage such problem may cost very expensive. he is your husband you will know him better than us . so i think its up to you to try to find out a way that push him to tell you everything. Personally i think that there should be no secret between husband and wife both has the rights to know each other. it is a reason why we get married to have a life partner so that we can share our happiness and sorrows and overcome them together. perhaps if you try to tell him something about your personal life he may tell you also.
2007-02-25 07:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get my laughs on Yahoo Answers for sure. Ok, so you are MARRIED to him and have been for 3 months but yet you know NOTHING?
Did you date two minutes before getting married?
2007-02-25 07:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you should have known each other better before you got married. Did you just not notice that he didn't speak about these things before you were married? You need to get him to open up or your marriage will not work.
2007-02-25 07:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in case you won't be able to have faith your mom, to no longer communicate with him approximately your affairs, then do no longer communicate something appropriate to your marriage or divorce, which incorporate your mom. which will end that. in case you think of he's having an affair, hire a P.I. I did and have been given a video. it is going to help you to go on, it is going to end his manipulation (you won't be able to lie while the fact is got here upon), and it will close your mom up. solid luck!
2016-11-25 22:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm surprised you didn't notice this about him before you got married? I've dated someone like this and I basically stopped asking so many questions and in his own time he came to me and told me things and it was a breakthrough in our relationship. a lot of men tend to be better at compartmentalising and don't ie. bring their work home or whatever. Maybe he wants to spend his home time thinking about you instead of money, work etc. ;)
2007-02-25 07:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was acting in the same way,when you were dating him,then he is not going to change.But you can talk with him about it.Communication is the key,to have a happy and success marriage.Good luck.
2007-02-25 07:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should tell him how you feel and yhay you love him and that you just want to know more about him.
2007-02-25 07:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by soccermolajt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋