we have been together for 9 years and have to sons.We have just build our own house, but lately things arent so good, its like that he doesnt want to spend time with us anymore this started when we first started the house as he was doing most of the building and he said that thing would change in the house.Its like we just have got into this habit and dont know how to get out of it.I know that he still loves me as he tells me every day.Its just thst myself and the kids miss him so much.Please dont tell me to leave him as thats my mothers advice.
2007-02-25 06:32:48 · 9 answers · asked by Annemarie E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have gotten into a rut that you must over come in order to regain the closeness you once shared. Take a quiet moment and sit down together to talk about this. I am sure the love is still there. It has just gotten buried deep in the daily routines you have now. I am sure that an open communication will help. Also try doing some of the things you used to do for him that you know he really likes. Maybe a romantic dinner without the kids at home by candle light, or even a date. You just need to refresh the romance and communication as you have grown used to the way things are now. It is like refreshing the air with a pleasant scent. All holds barred, you know your man best so stop at nothing short of the answer until you see some light in this situation. Don't let your relationship die due to complacency. It is worth the work, whatever it takes! Now go and show him how much you care!
2007-02-25 06:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been Married to your Husband for nine yrs. and have two sons, together,You started to notice that your Husband does not want to spend time with you and the kids, when he started building your new house where he spend a lot of time with the Family and you suspect that he is tired being with all of you, but what did you notice about him that has you worried abut him, if you say that he tells you he loves you, every day. Try to ask him what is it that is bothering him about the family and tell him that you and your kids miss the way he was and you hope that he would at least, make a try to be the Dad that your kids were accustomed in seeing around the house. I am sure that with time ,all this worry will be a thing of the past. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the betterment of the whole Family.
2007-02-25 07:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you do DONT LEAVE HIM time will change for the better he must be very busy and excited to build your own house and building a new house is a very fastidious process and it is a very time consuming thing,
the first time i build my house i was stocked into it all my decisions was always related to my new house either it is for the present or in for the future,im focusing my self too hard from the first foundation through the roof tiles and i enjoying it for every minutes i spent into it there is so much emotions flowing into me
and dreaming how does it will look like how does my friends and relatives will react to it
i spends so much time so much energy
it is my palace my terrotory my new domain
the first night i move on my new house is the most erotic
the most intimate feeling that i overcome
my wife smile is ear to ear and drooling on her sleep i didnt know that my blood line is from a wild stallion
it is a very wonderful feeling
so give your husband a lot of time give him a lot of support
your family will be good as ever
goodluck
2007-02-25 07:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
god not dont leave him, just talk to him this is the only way to solve this, even if you pick a day when you do things together with the boys even playing board games football ect and a night delicated to just you and him when the kids are asleep dress up in a sexy outfit keep the flame alive do thigs you use to do when you first start going out... good luck!
2007-02-25 06:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by boo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my advice for you is that invite him for a romantic dinner or ask him if you and him can go to the movies or somewhere really nice. Don't be shy to ask him that. You don't have to leave him , I'm sorry to say that but your mothers advice is really stupid you don't have to leave somebody if he/ she doesn't give you as much attention as you want. And about your two sons tell your husband to take them somewhere like fishing, biking etc. Good luck
2007-02-25 07:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some time alone as the others suggested and talk to him about all the things on your mind. You never know maybe there are things that he wants to talk about too but doesn't know how to start it. Spend sometime time together and have fun.
2007-02-25 06:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Mom to take the children for the night. Fix him his favorite Dinner. Put his favorite music on and lower the lights. Let him know that he is loved too. That you know that he worked hard on the house. And this is his reward. You might put on something he likes to see you in. A nightie or a bow!
2007-02-25 06:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i always say talk talk talk. Just sit him down and don't yell don't ***** and wine just tell him that you need him and you need to feel close to him.Give him a chance to correct what you feel needs to be corrected.Find ways that you him and the kids can spend the time you you feel you need.And then if he acting funny then maybe you should take your mother advice.
2007-02-25 06:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get away just the2 of you .take a cruise,go camping ,whatever you guys like to do. Give the children to mom & get away soon.
2007-02-25 06:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋