2007-02-25 06:15:30 · 37 answers · asked by girl27_ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to express to him everything that you are feeling. Also explain to him the reason why you cheated and let him know that you have worked out the problems and that he is only one in the world that can make you happy. It will take a lot of time to get him to trust you, but if his feelings are true and you truly love him... then everything will eventually work themselves out.... I wish you the best of luck....
2007-02-25 06:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you redefine what love is to you. Love involves trust and commitment. You violated both of those principles, which is why he is no longer with you. Even though you still "love" him, he has the right to decide what would be best for him, which seems to be without you. How can he ever trust you? This is not an attack, but you should be asking yourself these questions so that when you enter into a new relationship, you will have a better idea of what love is, rather than the idea you have now. Consider this a hard lesson learned and move forward.
2007-02-25 06:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, understand that he will be disappointed and express that in different ways, ie anger, resentment, loss of trust in you, etc. Accept this and be patient with him as he will have to work thru these feeling. Second, apologize and express your regret and remorse. Third, begin the process of restoring trust. This can take time. The best thing to do with building trust back up is to be "predictable." That means, always do and say what you say you will do an say. When you waver from the expected, it will create doubt in your bf again and he will not be able to trust.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 06:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn the lesson that cheating isn't an acceptable behavior...and what goes around, comes around. The consequences of your action (at least in part) is the loss of your bf.
You can try to talk to him and apologize, but many people believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" and are disinclined to ever trust anyone (again) that they know has a history of betrayal.
2007-02-25 06:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved him, why did you cheat on him. Something must have changed for you to cheat on him and now all of a sudden you love him again and want him back. You should have thought about that before you cheated. How can he know he can trust you now?
2007-02-25 08:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok as a fellow mistake maker as yourself i know where you are coming from.
but first you gotta ask yourself the question- do you really,really love him?
because if you answer yes then you're in for a battle. he doesnt trust you anymore and no amount of apologies or acting on your best behaviour is going to bring him back quickly. i mean you should still apologise tell him how you feel and that you want to work things out.
but there is a very likely chance that he wont come back (men and their egos).
so really work on it but dont hope too much in it, maybe if he sees all the effort that you are putting into your relationship then he will, try to give it a chance
2007-02-25 06:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Cher B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different reasons for doing the things that they do. If you loved him so much you should not have cheated on him. But things happen so all i can say is do whatever it takes to get him back. But first he has to earn your trust back because without trust you have nothing which I'm pretty sure you already know that.Trust the saying you never know what you have until its gone.
2007-02-25 06:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by ms.lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to say to get down on your knees and beg his forgiveness, but this probably wouldn't work anyway.
Compose a "short and sweet" note of apology and send it to him with a single flower (a rose, preferably).
That was the easy part!
The hard part is looking inside yourself to see why you cheated in the first place and don't be blaming it ALL on him; it takes two to tango!
2007-02-25 06:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean it all deepens on the details.Like how long did you cheat, with whom did you cheat,and how did he find out. But either way. You ask your self what you really want.i mean if you wanted to be in a monogamous relationship then why r you cheating.If you really want to be free then don't take any body through any games. just be friends. but if you want your man back and you just got caught fu cking up keep it all the way real with him about how you feel
2007-02-25 06:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to cool off and then talk to him about it. If you loved him, why did you cheat on him? That's a good question that you need to answer for yourself before you decide to try to get your bf back
2007-02-25 06:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋