In the last couple of days I am into and learned about self impovement, alternative medicine, spirituality....

Question

.....and law of attraction, positivity etc. But I feel not motivated enough as I feel that it is too late for me even to feel happy as I am older now and getting older. I am 36. not even married. I feel I wont have a good life from now on because of my age. I am not 18, 20, 25 any more. not even 30. I feel old for all this. How can I motivate myself?

Answer 1

Try not to dwell on what you don't have in your life. I can completely understand where you are coming from. I turned 44 this year. I have never been married and there were times that I really questioned what my life purpose was. I felt like I was missing the boat that everyone else had gotten on. Well, come to find out, I wasn't supposed to be on that boat. I came into the same phase, that you are currently in, a few years ago. I started seeking self improvement alternatives. I concentrated on bringing more positive energy into my life. Once I accepted that my life path is different than what I thought it should be (or what others thought it should be) I started becoming happier with what I had. Doors started opening and bringing opportunities. My life is the fullest it has ever been these past 2 years. At 43 I traveled the world (which I never saw myself doing) and became engaged to a beautiful man (who is 15 years younger by the way). I guess the moral of the story is: It is never too late to realize your path in life. You can do anything if you put your mind to it. My grandmother got her drivers license for the first time at 65. She turns 99 next month and she's still going strong. Don't let your age keep you from going out and getting what you want out of life. When you start to get a negative thought, try to stop the thought and focus on something positive. It takes work, but eventually it will become easier and soon you will be thinking much more positively. Good Luck

Answer 2

Do not let your fear overcome your love - in this case, love of your self. If your fear wins, then you will live a more fearful life; if your love wins, you will live a more loving life. Which one will make you happier? You know the answer. So follow your path because of love - because you love your self and you want to be genuinely happy.

Actually, I am not a great fan of forced motivation. In my opinion, if you need to force yourself to be motivated, then your heart probably isn't really in it in the first place. Your lack of motivation could be a signal that this isn't your exact path.

However, the initial interest that you've shown in these subject areas DOES suggest that your path probably lies somewhere in that general direction. Your heart and its passions are your compass. Go in the direction that your heart takes you - even if that path takes you on a zigzag through multiple subject areas. Who knows, your path may take you to the company of others like you, and perhaps the special love of another.

36 is not old. It's not too old for life, and it's not too old for marriage.

Here is a secret of age: happiness and love makes people younger, not older. The more genuine happiness and love you have within your heart, the younger and more beautiful you will become and feel. It also attracts more love from other people. I have seen this in many people much older than you. By the way, the opposite is true as well: the less happiness and love you have in your heart, the older you will appear and feel. And the less love you will attract from others.

This is why it is extremely important to follow your heart - to live for & through happiness and love.

I would wish you good luck, but it is not a matter of luck. It is a matter of love - so I wish you good love with whatever you decide. If you decide to not follow your heart, you will need all the luck in the world to be happy.

P.S. It took me an hour to write this, so I did not see crzynluv's post. But her story exactly expresses my point - extremely touching and inspiring.

Answer 3

You have to think positive. Concentrate on what you do have and be grateful for it! My life has changed so much from turning my focus from what I don't want to what I want!