Should I tell my mom?
2007-02-25 06:07:49 · 18 answers · asked by HaleighBlackx33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your father that he has to come clean to your mother, or you will.
You can't keep a secret like this from your mother. It would eat you up and destroy her trust for both you and your father when she finds out on her own. Your father is the one who needs to talk to your mother though, not you, unless he refuses to confess.
Tell your father he must let you know after he's told your mother. Then check with her to make sure he's not lying to you as well as her.
2007-02-25 06:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetheart for your pain. This is definitely a tricky question. The relationship between a man and a woman and their problems are supposed to be a private matter between you mom and dad, but your dad put you in a position of becoming involved. Do not remain an accomplice to this deceit. Sit your mom down privately and discuss this terrible thing that you have been thrown into. Discussing it with your dad may not do anything but cause him to try and hide it. Your mom - out of respect - deserves to know the truth! Make sure and ask her not to involve you in this battle that is between them. Is there some other relative that you can stay with until this can be settled between them(grandparents, aunts, an older brother or sister?) It's best that you are not a witness to quarrels or accusations. Let them deal with it by themselves. This is something that they must do own their own!!!
2007-02-25 14:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, reading the other answers here there isnt much else to say.
Go ahead and confront him, make him feel like he is biggest loser on the face of the planet.
Then tell him a new car may help you forget all about it and not tell your mom.
2007-02-25 14:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mr R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened to you. That has to hurt.
I wouldn't confront him right now. The emotions are pretty raw, and attack is common when someone is confronted. You don't need that.
Talk with your mom about relationships in general. If she would prefer to know, share. It is common, again, for the messenger to get maimed, so please allow yourself a little time to heal before you expose yourself to more pain.
If you take care of you first, you will have a stronger foundation for helping when they are hurting.
Blessings~
2007-02-25 14:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think he doesn't know he's cheating on dear old mom.?Do you think it will endear your father to you if you spill the beans.? Do you think that busting up your relationship with your dad, who in turn is going to bust up the relationship with dear old mom, is going to endear you to your siblings?.Do you have any brains in your head at all?. Steer clear of this ship wreck. Tell no one, I mean nobody, and plead ignorance of it all, if accused. Don't borrow your dads trouble. Peace in the family, even if false, is worth more than a piece;. Protect all of your family from you,. and what your dad does, is what your dad does. Maybe your mom already knows, and if nobody raises hell about it, it's OK. You don't know. It's thin ice. Loose lips sink ships.
2007-02-25 14:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait, ask your mom first what she would do if your dad did. then ask your dad why he did it. then tell him how you feel about it. then ask him to explain his self.
Then tell him that from now on he must give your mother more attention.
Or you will tell. let you dad feel your presence. You now have control over your dad. but don't abuse it. be careful or it will back fire in your face.
2007-02-25 14:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happend to me when i was a teen ager it was non of my busness what goes on between them .no since in getting caught in the middle so i kept my mouth shut all themyears. they stayed together untill he died of a heart a tack . but this was me you do what you feel is right for your mom if this is what you want to do and make you feel better .not right to have to make achoice like this i know but you have to do what you think is best . well good luck to you . hope things works out for your family take care
2007-02-25 14:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES GO TELL HER RIGHT NOW!!!!!! Your mom deserves to know!!! If your dad doesnt respect your mom you should!! So go and tell her right away i know it will hurt you to see her hurt but it is the right thing to do. but if you rather talk to your dad and tell him if he doesnt tell her than you will. But either way you she deserves to know.
2007-02-25 14:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by alana t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you should tell your mom and confront your father unless he is a violent person. im sorry that that happened im sure you deserve better
2007-02-25 14:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad first,ask why. See what he has to say. Let him tell her or you will. Bad spot for him to put you in.
Sorry Hope this helps.
2007-02-25 14:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋