I'm adopted from South Korea. My parents are both caucasian. I don't really know how to ask this question. Maybe is there anyone else out there who can empathize with me...
I feel kind of awkward about not knowing anything about where I was born, the language or anything. I have some chinese-american friends and they speak chinese and do chinese things. I feel kind of out of place with them sometimes. Nobody sees me any differently I don't think, but it still bothers me sometimes.I do American things because that's how I was raised. It's weird, I used to care less about where I came from but now I do... It's made me a lot more self concious.
I'm extrememly grateful I got this chance to be where I am. I just want to know if there is anyone else out there (of course there is) who feels the same feeling of being out of place as I do. Advice, anything.
Thanks
2007-02-25 06:02:01 · 4 answers · asked by s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I was adoped from Brazil .. but moved away when i was 3
my dad is from New Orleans.. and my mom is from Brazil .. .. so I had a little more advantage then you ..in learning where i came from .. but ..
Growing up in New Orleans .. I felt very misplaced .. i felt like something was missing .. I was .. not depressed.. but.. sad for many years and I did not know why. There was a huge void in me. I felt this way from the ages of 7 - 21. My mom always spoke about Brazil and about her famliy .. both my parents spoke Portuguese.. i did not speak it growing up.. but I could understand it.
when I was 18 I started reading alot of travel books abotu Brazil.. about the culture and the people.. when i was 21 my friend and i took a Wonderful tour of the country .. then stayed with one of my aunts for 1 month .. who i met for the first time. I got to know over 100 family members on my moms side. i picked up the language in no time .. and learned not only about myself.. but also about the US .. Ever since then.. I have been so happy ... i did not realize that this is what i wanted.. to learn who i was.. and where i came from.. It may seem strange.. but i'm also very content with New Orleans .. i'm 24 now.. and have been back to Brazil 3 times. and like you.. i was/am very thankful of where i am now .. i couldn't care less about my birth parents..
There is an awesome program at http://byki.com/ ... its a language program with audio .. games.. flashcards.. that helped alot with my portuguese.. they also have korean. and its free to download.
Lonely Planet also has some great travel books http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?z=y&EAN=9781740594493&itm=14
They give you some history.. common language phrases.. about the people.. about different cities... customs ..
If you ever consider visiting Korea ... (which i highly recommend)
=) theres a website called Sidestep.com where i buy my international flight tickets.. so far.. i've found them to be the cheapest.
Good Luck
2007-02-25 06:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by nola_cajun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you are a little older (early 20s or so) and ask your adaptive parents if they can tell you anything of your background.
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2007-02-25 14:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest taking a trip back to your homecountry and learning more about the culture there. It certainly helped me feel more in touch with my roots.
2007-02-25 14:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by onheadphones 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I think all adopted children want to find their true parents sooner or later.
2007-02-25 14:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋