i have a friend thats gay he wont admit it what do i do?

Question

i found out about an online convo he had with anthoer guy but he still wont admit it.......HELP!!

Answer 1

I don't think that that is your problem. Let him come out on his own terms. Don't make yourself the negotiator or proprietor of his decisions.

Answer 2

why is this soooooooooooo important? Him being gay is only a fraction of who he really is so don't let his sexuality change your mind about who he is as long as he is a good friend it is no big deal and if you try to force him to admit it then he will just distance himself from you.

I used to have a friend that wasn't born gay but she did change and become gay or bi, as far as I know she is just strictly gay, she became involved with another woman that was very controlling and manipulative and lied to her about me in so many ways. When I confronted her about her being gay she lied to me and then later to her family, and for years I hated my former friend for lying to me and believing the lies that were told about me. I finally realized that she had changed so that I didn't know who she was nor did I ever want to. Years later I got to know a very sweet and loving gay man and he is now one of my dearest friends and he did change my mind and heart toward gay people in general. I realized that the woman my former friend became involved with is nothing but a lying B who used her to be a kept woman and is more than likely still doing it and will never let my former friend out of her life.

What I am saying is don't dismiss him just because of his being gay, stick by him as he will need all the friends that he can have if he ever does come out of the closet as she never has because she used to scream her hate for gays the loudest and then she became one. Let him tell you if he so chooses in his own good time and if he doesn't don't worry about it. Just continue to be a good friend to him.

Answer 3

If he won't admit that he is gay, there is nothing you can do about it. It is very difficult to come out to people, even close friends. When he is ready, he will tell you. Until then, you will just have to be patient.

Answer 4

Mind your own business. If and when he wants to discuss it with you, HE will make the decision, and not you.

Ironic how you made a cry for help when having a "friend" like you, he is the one who needs the help.

Answer 5

You realize that you were wrong. The only way you know he is gay is if he tells you. Don't assume anything. Since he doesn't admit it, it means he is not gay. Why do people always assume that?

Answer 6

Maybe he's not really gay. Maybe he's not ready to admit it to other people or himself. Why is it so important to you for him to admit it? It's not like it affects you.

Answer 7

Sometimes when some guy doesn't want to admit he's gay, he probably is in fact, not one. He's probably just curious. Most part adult gays would more than happy to flaunt it. But since you've seen the convo and stuff, I dunno..

Answer 8

Actually, no offense, but that's really none of your business.

I have a lot of friends who are gay and they choose not to be open about it. that's their choice. I don't make judgments about their choices in life because its not my place to do so.

Let him know if he is he can talk to you about it, but don't force him in to anything.

for one thing it will prevent resentment and for another he would not feel at all pressured.

And you will both be happier for it.

Answer 9

Maybe its not up to you to worry about it? Why do you need help? He obviously doesnt. How come you know about his online conversations too?

Answer 10

Allow your friend the space and privacy to decide when he is ready to share his sexual orientation. to each their own and you can't push someone and to be totally honest, it's sticking your nose where it doesn't belong.