...for asking my husband if he is going to replace the clothes of mine he tore when ripping them when he yanked them off the hangers into a pile. He was mad at me and had a little anger fit so he took it out on my clothes. I had 2 dresses that were worth about $200 a piece. He said he will buy me news ones but only gave me $100. That wont get me far as expensive as clothes are these days. And he does have the money, we own our own business. I only ask because his mother claims I am being selfish for asking him to replace them. What am I supposed to wear then if he doesn't? It was at least half of my clothes! I buy what I can with the money he gives me per week, but do you think I'm wrong for asking him to pay for it himself so I don't use my grocery money? Isn't it only fair?
2007-02-25 05:50:00 · 22 answers · asked by Koozie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes .. if he's not willing to replace the personal things of yours that HE destroyed then what does that say about his character as a husband? .. it sounds to me like he's controlling and thinks that everything financially positive in the relationship belongs to him and not the both of you
2007-02-25 05:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Getting even isn't going to happen. More of the same is more probable. Instead of wasting cloth, and more good money after bad, go check out the Salvation Army, and any thrift 2nd hand stores. Some items are brand new, tags still on them, and at a tenth of the new cost. People who've never shopped one of these places, including me, are dumbfounded at the deals. Don't take your mother. Go alone, get mother to watch the kids, don't tell where you got the new threads, or how much. When dummy tries to hissy fit again, and tears up your stuff, get him to pay twice what you did. Make a little profit on his misbehavior.
2007-02-25 14:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only tore up your cloths because he likes seeing you naked.
Go use the grocery to buy some new cloths. When there is no food in the house and he starts getting real hungry things will change.It might be you that gets ripped up the next time but at least you will have gotten your point across. If you don't want to do that then go pi$$ in his shoes and get even
2007-02-25 13:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by irish dude 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you and hubby have much bigger problems than your $200 dresses. Sounds like you're just the nanny and maid, and live on an allowance.
First, get Dave Ramsey's book The Total Money Makeover today. You & hubby should be agreeing every month on a budget that includes everything, including money for clothes.
Good Luck
2007-02-25 13:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband must be the incredible hulk if he tore half of your clothes ripping them off the hanger when he was mad.
Boy am I thankful I don't have to deal with stuff like this in my marriage.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 13:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, clothes would be my least worry! That anger of your husbands would be my primary concern. I haven't seen that kind of fit since I was in Oklahoma. Grandad was a spit fire! Oh well, you are going to have to do one of two things. Either walk around in dumpy sweats till he gives you more cash, or go buy Wal-mart specials! That's not too bad, but the fit sucks! I would hold out for more $'s!
2007-02-25 16:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay out the new clothes with price tags.This will show him how far the $100 went. If you tore up his things he would want you to replace them.
2007-02-25 14:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are selfish, but I do think you are crazy for being in a marriage with a meddling mother in law and guy with anger management issues like this. I hope it does not escalate into violence towards you.
Why don't you get a job yourself ? It would be good insurance in case you are in the position of needing to get away quickly. Blessings dear and good luck.
2007-02-25 14:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a big problem with his temper and I'd be concerned that he might become violent. He should replace what he damaged.
You say you both own your own business - then why is he controlling all the money? He has a real issue with having total control over you. I think your marriage has bigger issues than a couple dresses.
And why is his mother involved? This is none of her business.
2007-02-25 13:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not selfish at all. It sounds like you husband has anger management problems or he's just an ***, and his mother is a *****. I'm sure you could take him to court if he doesn't pay up.
2007-02-25 13:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by ....:).... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of his mothers business. He needs to replace what he destroyed. If he did that to a stranger, he would pay her for the damage, he should at least give you the courtesy he would give to a stranger.
2007-02-25 14:07:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋