I have a friend that is only 14 years old and she's getting drunk at parties. Shes my best friend but she moved to a different state last year and is the same girl except that shes getting into parties and stuff. I just talked to her and she was so hungover. I try to tell her its like bad and shes just like "I can control myself. I only had a few shots last night. I can control myself. Gosh you sound like my mom..." Im scared for her - my sister almost died of drinking to much and it really scared me. What should I do - Ive told her everything but she keeps saying she can control herself.
2007-02-25 05:46:14 · 9 answers · asked by Cali_forever! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her that she is hurting you by drinking. tell her that what she is doing isnt fair to you and that if she really was your friend she would listen to what you have to say.
if that doesnt make her want to stop, she's not a very good friend
2007-02-25 06:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Choconilla♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is not my problem...so i will not give a definite answer. This is your personal problem, you have to solve it yourself. but i will give advice.
First of all..
What is a friend?
++Answer, someone you care about isn't it?
Well... if she is getting mad at you for caring for her....well, that just shows that you're not really her "best" friend..
She might be your best friend... but if she is getting mad just because you're helping her.... Then that just shows that her point of view is different.
As a friend, it is important to protect each other, but yet, don't allow to much protecting shields.
Try talking little by little but not so small at a time that it takes a year to get to the final point.
Maybe try talking her into coming over for some times... if she's not so far away...
Remember these quotes:
++ A True Friend is one who walks in when others walk out.
If you want to be her true friend, you're already walking in, but you're scared that she won't like it.
So, you pick, do you want her to solve her problem by herself, while you support her.
Or do you want to just walk in and solve it yourself.
2007-02-25 14:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by Xiao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is an alchoholic. She will not be able to be helped until she sees it. Most alchoholics are in a state of denile. "I can handle it." Or "I only have a few drinks to make me feel better." THey are also very manipulating. It is a learned behaviour and can be helped seek help at al anon
2007-02-25 13:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by david_pugsley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u cant help her then u need 2 find someone who can, maybe like her parents or an adult close 2 her. it may seem like the wrong thing 2 do but if u cant help her then u have 2 find someone who can, if u really truly care about her
2007-02-25 14:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by socc3rmast3rr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you've told her everything you could and now it's just up to her to listen. i had a friend exactly like that and i told her a million stories about people screwing their lives up because they started drinking too young, but she didn't want to listen. she had to screw up for herself to understand. it's hard but sometimes you have to let people find things out for themselves. they don't understand how real the consequences are until they're forced to deal with them.
2007-02-25 14:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by i_play_6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell her that it worrys you and if she really thinks of you as a best freind she will at least talk with you about it.
2007-02-25 13:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by Blake B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do her parents know? I know it sucks to go behind her back, but inform her parents, and hopefully they can help control where she goes at night, and watches who she's with.
2007-02-25 13:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray about it every night and God will take out of your hands and let her know that it can kill her let her know you are only telling her this becuz u love and care about her i hope u can help her stop good luck and God bless
2007-02-25 14:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude shes growing up jesus h christ u do sound like a mom
2007-02-25 13:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by austinisking302 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋