He has everything I have ever wanted so how do you know, and please dont just say you just know cause I dont see how....I thought my ex was the one...turned out he wasnt...Now this one is so great and caring whearas the other one was a huge police officer JERK....How do you know?
2007-02-25 05:31:58 · 8 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Even I don't know this question. when you do find out, let me know, I've been with mine for 3 years. and still don't know. haha
2007-02-25 05:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know by testing the relationship. Not in evil ways but first ask yourself if this is the person you can talk about any subject without him jumping at what you say and how you think. There will always be different thinking between people because of different back grounds. Find all the common ground and ask yourself are you comfortable around him. If you answer yes and are very close than seek more time with him. If the time you spend gets bad than it is a good sign that it won't work out.
2007-02-25 05:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by david_pugsley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some questions you can ask yourself
1. Does he treat you with respect? Does he ever say things to make you feel bad about yourself or criticise? Does he ignore you unless he wants something from you? Does he just do whatever he feels like or does he take your needs into account? Does he help you do things like clean the dishes, stuff like that?
2. What kind of education does he have? This is important because an ignorant husband - someone who doesn't listen or care about what anyone else has to say - is a nightmare.
3. What kind of earning potential does he have? Does he take care of himself financially? Can he take care of you?
4. Does he share the same values as you? We live in a society where we are tolerant of other people's values, but in a marriage you have to share the values otherwise you are going to have conflict.
5. Does he even want marraige? He should be actively planning, on his own accord, to making a family with you. Does he want kids (if that's what you want).
6. Is he having sex with you? I know in our society 'everyone does it' but our society is littered with broken homes and unhappy people. If he really loves you, he wouldn't want to sleep with you unless he put a ring on your finger. It's a sign of respect.
I could sit here and think of lots and lots of questions but these are some good ones for a start.
2007-02-25 05:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to go by your own feelings.When people say they just knew, sometimes that's true. It was for me.
This guy may seem to have everything you want, but it sounds like something is holding you back from making a commitment. Is it because you don't trust your instincts from the last time? If so, maybe you just need a little more time to be absolutely certain. Or maybe there is something else - maybe he is not as perfect as he seems and you haven't admitted it to yourself yet.
Get counseling if you think it might help you sort out your feelings and don't make a commitment until you are absolutely ready.
2007-02-25 05:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off exam those feelings that u had 4 ur ex and why u had those feelings and how long it took u to get to that point of knowing or thinking he was the one. since he wasnt the one i think some comparison along with elimination needs to take place. Besides that take ur time and stop worrying when u will feel that "hes the one feeling" because really u will just know. when u can trip up and almost fall in front of him and he giggles and ur not ashamed, when u wont worry whether he smells ur morning breathe, or when u wont force him out of the bathroom when u have 2 go # 2. U ~WILL~ KNOW!!!!!
2007-02-25 05:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnuthinz06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're dating, you learn what works for you and what doesn't. I had a number of boyfriends (v casusal to serious) before I met my own Mr Right, and because I had tried to learn from my past relationships, I knew what I needed, and what I didn't. So, when he came along, he fit with what I was looking for in a man. You can't settle for someone having MOST of the things you want-I don't think we can ever really be happy like that.
To me, I most value hard work, kindness, loyalty, and family. My guy fulfills all that, and much more. I know I've got the right guy for me.
2007-02-25 05:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time, all the pieces fit together,every thing that went wrong before shouldn't be there know. If there a problems talk then out ,Relationships don't have warranty so you have to fix them yourself.
2007-02-25 05:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never know until you spend some of your life with him.
2007-02-25 05:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sousy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋