My exboyfriend of over a year is deployed. We were together 6 months before he left and i waited on him almost the entire year. We have had ups and down..Right now we are on a down. He changed and he started to be really cruel to me..He would email me and say its the deployment thats making him like that..Of course he wasnt like that when you left. He was a wonderful guy. But he keeps telling me to move on. I dont know rather to take it and leave or stand up for him and show him how much I care for him..I love him and cant imagine being without him...Any advice would help
2007-02-25 05:26:02 · 10 answers · asked by SOLIDERGIRL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes i could see myself spending the rest of my life with him. We were a good couple before he left but now he is a jerk. He says really hurtful things now. I want things to work out but i dont want to get hurt and look like a fool
2007-02-25 05:35:59 · update #1
if hes not treating you right you should leave. thats all it comes down to. if your not happy because of anything that he does then you shouldnt be with him. having feelings for him after this will surely be a problem, but it doesnt have to be. to get over someone it takes time and you have to quit cold turkey. no phone calls no email no nothing. you have to pretend he doesnt exist. every time you feel the erge to talk to him think to yourself "i have a plan" while your not talking ot him get yourself out there and start looking at other guys. a) you could meet the right guy, a better guy b) if you dont meet anyone else your interested in, your bf will miss you so much by then he might even come back. because when your so eger to fix things with him he will think "oh theres no rush, i dont have to make an effort to fix this because shes not going anywhere". you need to scare him so that he understands youre strong enough to leave if you have to.
2007-02-25 05:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by braineak123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is in a war! He is in the most difficult and stressful situation imaginable. You can't expect him to be the same person. I was in Iraq and it definitely changes you to see people being killed right in front of you and to wonder if you'll make it home. If you are going to stay with him, he needs your constant support and understanding. You have to decide if the good outweighs the bad. If you feel like you can handle the changes he's going through and be there for him, then stick it out. If it's too much to deal with then move on. Think about the good and bad of your relationship. If the good things outweigh the bad, then stick with him.
2007-02-25 13:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a soldiers significant other is one of the hardest things a person can do. Not only do you have to hold the fort down alone but you also have to worry night and day that they are OK. If you truly love him the a relationship is always worth saving. as far as what he is saying try to think of why he is saying it other than what he is saying. He probably worries about you as much as you do him. He stuck somewhere and really want to be here to take care of you but can't. By telling you to move on he is trying to take care of you by allowing someone else to do it for him. My advise is to be strong and stand by him. i think you will find the man you love when he returns.
2007-02-25 13:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by deniver2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really cared about you--he would never be cruel to you! Plus you said that he keeps telling you to move on--do it!! the more time that you try to invest in this relationship--the harder it is going to be to actually move on! You need to cut the ties--accept the fact that he doesnt really care and find someone that does!
2007-02-25 14:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by chastity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe he has the FEAR of you not being faithful to him because he is so far way....give him some space and don't keep hounding the situation...Just let him know how you feel and that you will waith faithfully until he comes home, and drop it...don't keep bringing up the situation...Good luck
2007-02-25 13:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
war can do alot to change someone, if he was a wonderful guy once, maybe u best wait till he returns home to make a decision. we don't know what kind of stuff he is having to deal with over there, just hang in there and see how it goes once he returns home. good luck
2007-02-25 13:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For all you know he is killing people every day and having people try to kill him. Maybe that damages him too much to have a relationship but don't blame him for what the world does to him.
2007-02-25 13:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to save it hes overseas and anything worth having is never easy to keep.
2007-02-25 13:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Blake B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with????
2007-02-25 13:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want him, and he is a good guy, stay by his side and weather the storm.
2007-02-25 13:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋