Okay Ladies think hard before you answer this question.
Knowing what you know NOW would you get married again?
No matter how sweet and kind a husband you have or had they're still work. Meaning, even after he comes home from work you still have or had to work. Raising the kids, cooking and then pleasing and attending his needs. Whether men want to believe it or not, THAT is work!
Me, I don't have the energy, how about YOU?
2007-02-25 04:57:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
ABSOLUTELY DO IT A HUNDRED TIMES OVER !!! I love being married and wait on my guy hand and foot. I love every minute of it !!! Marriage has not been work for me at all. Raising my child has not been work either.
Everyone wonders why I can be so happy and I wonder how they can't be. I run to the door when my husband or son comes home. Making them feel special makes me feel great and they know I light up when either one of them enter a room.
I know exactly what you mean about working then coming home to work some more but I find it enjoyable. It seems the man's job is done at his place of employment but the woman must continue....Only rare occasions do I feel like saying "screw it" and leave the dishes till the next day. All in all I am just damn happy to have this wonderful man and son in my life and am grateful every morning that I wake up. Its pretty much smooth sailing after that !
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Happy Sunday !
2007-02-25 07:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married 2 years, then another time 25 years, and am now in a 2-year relationship.
Yes I would get married again, for several reasons.
Whether you are married or not, on this side of the Pearly Gates, life is always going to be work. It depends on what you want to get out of life. Is the work worth it? What are your goals?
Marriage is worth it if you have a partnership, and that doesn't mean 50-50. Most of the time it will be 90-10 or 10-90, and a lot of times it's 100-0 or 0-100. Because the partners are not at their top performance 100% of the time, one will always be carrying a bigger load. The problem is when one partner feels they are carrying more than their share most of the time. Our selfish human nature means that WE will always feel like we're the ones giving more than receiving.
But what do you get in return? Not a perfect romantic partner, not a perfect childrearing partner, not even a perfect roommate! Give it up if you're looking for perfection. I am not saying stay in an abusive relationship.
Maybe you need to express yourself more. A "date" or special meal together might be a good time, not when he walks in the door from work or you're feeling hurt or tired. Give yourself a little time away from the children and a little time for yourself before you approach him. You need to approach him with confidence in yourself and feeling good about yourself, not from the aspect of a victim. You deserve respect and he'll feel more like giving it if you treat him with respect.
What you can experience is a partnership with total commitment. If you're always looking at greener pastures, you won't commit the time to keep up your side of the fence. There are reasons to break a promise and leave a commitment, but lack of happiness or pleasure is NOT among them. Stability and trust in a relationship have rewards that you may not be looking at. A long-term marriage is an accomplishment you have to earn.
Pardon these ramblings, just an old lady talkin'.
2007-02-25 13:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Calli 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure its work, but its work with rewards that go past a paycheck.
I've loved being married this time, although my first marriage was a miserable excuse for one, my second has more than made up for it. I'm so glad I didn't let the first one scare me away from trying it again. Could it be the key is that he also attends to my needs and tries to (and does) please me?
I'm not a newlywed, so don't think that, its been 28 years with him and I'm happier each year.
2007-02-25 13:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married for the first time at 45. I expect it to be hard, to live with him and keep him satisfied (everywhere, not just in the bedroom). However, I'll work as hard as I have to to not come home to an empty house, to not struggle to find a date for C'mas parties, etc, to have someone to share my life with. No, marriage isn't easy, but being single isn't easy either!
2007-02-25 13:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by janejane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well now. even if knowing what I know now, I would still marry who I married. Even if I decided that he was a no good SOB, I got three wonderful daughters out of the marriage, so without the marriage I would not have gotten them. sometimes in life we just have to take the good with the bad.
2007-02-25 13:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by ragincajun1957 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would. Nothing worth having doesn't come without some work.
2007-02-25 13:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely do it over again, but with someone else. It is very hard and demanding work.
2007-02-25 13:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by cargirldawn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have answered your own question: your perspective that 'Me, I don't have the energy," is entirely typical. It's bloody exhasting "catering" to others.
2007-02-25 18:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Question is, would they do ME all over again?
2007-02-25 13:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by KevinStud99 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋