I'm a soldier in the military and am not home very much. We try to go out and eat as a family and have movie nights, but my wife and I never get a night for just us because we are new to this duty station and we dont know anyone here to babysit. We are both very protective of our only little girl. What should i do to get a little one on one time again with my wife.
2007-02-25 04:27:51 · 10 answers · asked by oneshotonekill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you attend a church? If not, are there any churches around that you could call and ask to be connected with their youth pastor? Often times youth pastors or children's pastors of churches know of teens in their church or parish who babysit and who have a reputation for reliability and trustworthiness. If these teens are involved in their church, the youth pastors generally know them fairly well and can vouch for their character. It couldn't hurt to try. Another thing you could try is to call a nanny service in your area and ask if they know of nannies who do occasionally babysitting. Because nannies have to pass a background check before being hired, you would have a greater chance of finding someone trustworthy this way. I myself have never tried this, so don't know if it would work. I just thought it sounded like an idea you could try.
Finally, I want to tell you that I too agree with Momof2's answer when she said thank you for your service to your country. It is not an easy thing you are doing. You are sacrificing a lot just by serving, and I appreciate you for what you are doing. Thank you!
2007-02-25 04:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain.. We've been married since 2001 and he's been in the Army since 99. I don't trust anyone to babysit our son. Between him working, I work afternoon and night shift, plus I babysit in the mornings and our son has cub scouts, school stuff, hubby has missions to go on, and he's always out in the field, or going to JRTC, or being deployed...lol.. Never a dull minute in the house. I find that the best time to talk or even spend some time alone is after our son goes to bed. We will rent a movie that is over a G rating, kick back and cuddle up and watch it. Then we'll even pause the movie so we can talk about what's been going on. I have become friends with one neighbor here, after knowing her and her family for about a year I have started letting our son stay over there for a night on the weekends. I'm not sure how old your child is and if she's old enough to spend the night at a friends though. I know there are online communities for military families to be able to get to know others. Maybe you could look into something like that if you would rather go out alone with your wife instead of staying in and making the best of it. Good Luck. If your at Ft. Campbell I'll babysit... jessidawn_69@yahoo.com
2007-02-25 12:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by jessidawn_69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. We live far from family and friends and I don't trust anyone with my son. If you do find someone to sit that you're not sure of, you're not going to have a good time since you'll spend the whole time worrying.
My advice is to have dates at home. Wait until the kids are asleep and watch a movie, drink some wine, cuddle up and talk.
2007-02-25 13:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start off by saying thank you for your service to our country. You make me very proud.
You also sound like a wonderful husband (most soliders are) and father.
Why don't you make a surprise romantic night for you and your wife after you put your daughter to bed. Go buy some candles, wine, your wife a lingerie, and some roses. After you put your daughter to bed tell your wife to go take a bath. While she is in the bath light the candles, get the wine out, lay the lingerie on the bed and pluck the rose petals and sprinkle them on the floor and bed in your bedroom and then let the sparks fly.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 12:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Post an ad for a occasional babysitter interview alot of people and find one you feel safe with.. you can never be 100% sure but that's all we can do as parents.. Also make time when your little one goes to bed.. Make a nice dinner for your wife buy her flowers and surprise her when you daughter is sleeping and so on.. Good Luck
2007-02-25 12:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask around to see if other people know if there is a sitter to watch your little one. Even if you can't find one, just enjoy your time together as a family.
I also want to thank you for going out there to fight for my Freedom and for others as well. Your wife is a lucky woman to have someone who is willing to put their life in harms way to fight the enemy. Thank you!
2007-02-25 12:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the people you work with for a recomendation, I'm sure some of them must have young children, or older children that would be up to the task.
2007-02-25 12:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, God bless you, and thanks for your service. My husband and I are too cheap (usually) to pay for babysitters, meals, tickets, drinks, etc. We like to wait for the childrens to fall asleep and then put on one of our favorite CD's from our dating era, and just enjoy talking to each other. It feels good to turn the silly TV off for a while and actually communicate. You do have to plan it, though, or it doesn't happen effortlessly.
2007-02-25 12:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by momof2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surely there is someone at your duty station who can recommend a good sitter.
2007-02-25 12:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by ra63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will eventually have to trust a babysitter so the sooner the better.
2007-02-25 12:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty_Bad_Logic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋