What do I do?

Question

I broke up with my bf of 4yr a couple of wks ago, met him in pub Fri to talk and told him I still love him but not in love anymore. Very painful, he cried I cried, I know deep down it was the right thing to do but now when I think bout not bein with him anymore I get really upset and we been txin each other ever since sayin how much we miss each other. I feel like I'm leadin him on but wanna stay in touch at the same time, don't wanna end up gettin back together if its all gonna go pearshaped again!!

Heeelllpppp!!!!!

Answer 1

It's very normal to feel pain after you break with someone. you are grieving the death of your relationship. Why did you break up if you are still in constant touch?

You both have to decide what you want. You have been a comfort zone 4 each other for several years; of course you both miss that. That doesn't mean it's right for you to get back together. Why not have a chat and see what you both need , want and feel?

Answer 2

Don't beat yourself up - this is all still very new. You have shared everything with this person for the last four years and its very difficult to break things off instantly. Remind yourself of the reasons why you broke up, try to get out more with friends as you are more likely to contact him when you are on your own and remember this will get easier and you will both be able to move on with your lives. Good luck.

Answer 3

You HAVE to give it some breathing room... If you txt a few times a day.. cut it down to once or twice a day at first and just tell him you were busy, BUT dont miss a day at first. Then he'll know you still want to be his friend, and it will give you both time to heal.

Answer 4

Leave the poor guy alone. Sounds like he deserves better than some flakey chick like you messing with him. Still love him but not in love? Only very pathetic people say that, the kind of pathetic people that shouldn't be allowed to date.

Answer 5

just think of all the reasons why you you split up in the first place , and if you cant resolve them then you must move on .
For yourself and for him as well because this sort of thing can drag out for years, and life is to short to waste.
I hope this has been of help i'v been there too.

Answer 6

You remind me of my baby brother's ex-girlfriend.She broke his heart badly but because she still needed the attention for her insecurities,she teased him constantly.
You do not love him,leave him to heal and you go find a hobby or something.Oh,and grow up.

Answer 7

are you happy with him. most people fall in an out of love with they partners at some time. what is more important is that you like spending time together. i think most people fall in love and that feeling changes to love and is not mad head over heal love . if you do not want to be with him leave him alone.

Answer 8

Can't have it both ways unless there is a understanding
friends only .He wants more so end it now. Maybe in time you can be friends again.

Answer 9

you are leading him on lovely, i did the samething, thought if i stayed in contact with my ex hubby we could be friends but too him it was a sign i still wanted him! nah! so i broke any contact till he was over me we have now resumed contact but we think the same now, just friends, if you wanna be just friends dont have contact and try at a later date when he,s over you x

Answer 10

if you love him but are not in love with him then let him go and stop playing with his emotions. after time he will move on and maybe later in life you 2 can be better friends, but not right now.