ok since my parents dont really care about me i have been out and about. i go to parties every night and drink A LOT. this happened before when i was 12 and i got preganent with twins now i am preganent agin for 7 month first i though i was judt getting fat but now i know for sure i am not. my parents gave made me keep the twins but really i gave it up for adoption. but now i want to keep this baby even though the father just ran out on me. plz dont tell me to put this baby up for adoption because i wanna keep her.
2007-02-25 03:59:45 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok well im not going to tell you to get rid of the baby because i have been in your shoes only i was 16. i decided i would keep my baby and believe me it is very hard. i dont condone teen pregnancy but you need to get help from a doctor. if you email me i can give the name of some websites that could probably help you. #1 you need to tell an adult that you can feel you can trust. #2 you need to stop sleeping around and getting drunk. you going to be burnt out before you ar 18. #3 look into places that are abortion and adoption alternatives that can help you with your baby. and finally you need to tell your parents, they might be mad but they are the ppl you also need to talk to .
2007-02-25 04:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by ASH 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your 14 Years Old. Give This Baby Up For Adoption. So That The Baby Can Atleast Have A Life, And Get What It Needs To Get. And Start Getting On Birth Control AND STOP DRiNKiNG!
2007-02-25 04:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have been pregnant and going out drinking for 7 months? there may be significant damage to your baby already, alcohol has serious effects on babies, i think you are a little young to think about keeping the baby, how would you be able to support her? especially if your parents are not behind you, at 14 your parents still support you and if they will not support the baby then now you have 2 people to support which means you would have to quit school find a place to stay, a place to work (most places wont hire someone under age 16-at least in my state), someone to take care of the baby while you work. Its going to be really really hard. I would think twice about it, i know it sounds great in your mind but the reality is that you probably will be creating a very difficult life for yourself.
Is there any way you would be willing to consider an Open adoption? My friend did this when she was 16 and the family that adopted her daughter was very nice and lets her keep a little contact with her, writing letters and they send her pictures, it was hard for her but she really wanted to give her baby the best life possible.
good luck
2007-02-25 04:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by theburlaces 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't know this baby and you want to keep her. You actually gave birth to twins, knew them, and gave them up? Is there some sort of reasoning behind your actions? If your parents thought you were keeping the twins, aren't they going to find out that you gave them up for adoption? Something is not right about this question. Is it maybe a joke, inspired by the worst stories of all the other 12, 13 and 14 yr-olds' pregnancy questions here on Answers?
You seem to be accountable to no one. Not your parents, not the father to your baby, only to your somewhat whimsical game plan for life. This is not a level of maturity necessary to raise a child. Of course everyone is going to tell you to give the baby up for adoption.
You suffered the consequences of not using birth control once and you 'forgot' all about those consequences (your twins) and got pregnant again. Raising a child and living responsibly in this world is all about understanding consequences. There will always be a reason you didn't buy a snow suit for your baby when it was cold, didn't buy formula when you saw you were running out. You go to parties every night and drink a lot (for real? Is your baby going to be born with physical problems because of this? Consequences. Again.)
Talk to you parents, apologize for being so out of control, face your life and make it different.
2007-02-25 04:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give the baby up for adoption, but only if you feel you can't financially or emotionally take care of a baby. You should consider whats best for your baby. If you don't feel comfortable with giving her up to a complete stranger and not being able to see her again, try putting her in an open adoption. That way you can visit her whenever. If you seriously want to keep your child then stop partying and drinking. What kind of enviroment would that be? You have to be responsible and be a good example and give her a good home, even if it isn't your own. Good luck and best wishes to you and your baby!
2007-02-25 05:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by ஐღKellyღஐ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because ur parents dont care about you... Doesnt mean you shouldnt care about urself. Stop going out and drinking at night and get ur head in the books so you can grow up and be something.. and show ur parents they were wrong for not being nicer to you. As for the baby.. they baby should be put up for adoption so that it can have a better chance at life. PLEASE think of ur baby more than urself. YOur baby will love you when they are older for giving them that chance at life. When/and or if you give it up for adoption make sure the people you allow to have ur baby will let you see the baby or if they live far away send u pics of the baby and a update every month or so. You can give up a baby for adoption and still be apart of their lives. Keep ur head up and do what is right. Study and become something
2007-02-25 04:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Sexylova49 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have been out partying like that. Especially drinking at suck an early age. What is Wrong with you? You should be more mature than that, but I'll give you credit for wanting to take care of your child. That's your choice, and nobody can change that. But the partying needs to stop. You'll have a child now and if your parents don't even care about you, then you shouldn't do the same to your child. I'm very sorry to hear about your unfortunate life. I wish you nothing but the best. Godd Luck.
2007-02-25 04:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by mtoutlaw_87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey... I posted a question on this thing about having and abortion and I got alot of good answers (and mean one too). I just wanted to say hi and I think you are a brave little girl for having your children. Sorry to call you a little girl but I am 22 and still felt too young and imature to go through with my pregnancy. I can't pretend to know what it would be like to give a child away, not to mention three, but I do agree that it is the best decision. Here is why... it is 2007, you need to finish school, go to college, and be able to support yourself with out a man. I understand about parting, it is fun right now, most people go through the party girl stang, you are going through it younger then most so actually when you are 18-20 you won't won't to do it anymore. You might even be more responsible then some of your peers. I am telling you this from my experience so it's ok to disagree. There is open adoption which you might want to consider. That means a family will be the parent of your child but you can still see him or her. You would have the joy of knowing this person but not the responsibility of things like money, diapers, formula.... it adds up. At such a young age I think it is ok to think of yourself first. It is hard to understand but if your parents don't care, then it is your responsiblity to care about yourself. Think what is best for you, before your parents, or the baby. You need to put yourself in the position to achieve your dreams. You won't be parting like this forever, trust me, it will get old. Use responsilbity next time and get on birth control and/or use a condom. Planned parent hood has ways of getting it if you do not have the money. Best of luck and remember I am suggesting what I think but you have to make the choose yourself. P.S. I really do think you are brave!
(forgive my spelling... see school is important!!)
2007-02-25 05:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by BillyJeansmomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i'd tell you if you can change your ways, if you can stop partying and drinking then go ahead and keep it otherwise its not good for the kid to live in a party enviroment, and if you got that dads name and phone number get some child support, if your parents wont help you out there are programs everywhere for young moms that can help you, you just have to ask around. The way i feel about it is if you think your mature enough to take care of a child then your mature enough to quit the partyin, and thats the truth. I had to for my baby and im happier than ive ever been i dont want or need drugs and alcohol because my baby is my world, and if you want to quit the first thing you got to do is seperate yorself from your friends who encourage you to party, and then keep taking more steps from there.
2007-02-25 04:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok girl, I´m 15 and i pretty much know what you´re talking about, my mom was also 14 when she gave birth to me and she put me up for adoption, I think it was the right decision, because she hadn´t been able to race the baby, if you wanna keep it u gotta totally change, no more parties, boys, fun etc, only baby, baby, baby. this might be great but not in our age! girl, plz! But I know how you feel by wanting to keep the baby, I would want to keep it too but make sure you got parents or friends(real friends not those one or two day best friends then i´m gone ppl) and contact a family child care center or somthin. good luck!
2007-02-25 04:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋