why is it that children are more spoiled today?

Question

Children now adays, are more demanding and listen less. Do you think it is the parents fault because of the abuse and hard times we went through or do you think it is that society makes it to easy on kids to be delinquents?

Answer 1

Society has less time for family these days, I beleive children are getting less quality time with their parents. There is also more expendable income in households today which makes it easier to park a child in front of TV or videogames.

Answer 2

It's a combination of several issues. Every generation wants the next one to have a easier life. And society has become more credit dependant and impulse buying orientated and it's become what material items you have and the other guy doesn't or everyone else has and you don't. And also there are more laws protecting children's rights now than when I was a kid. A.K.A. you can no longer discipline your child the way you were disciplined as a child because of abuse issues. Like I said it's a combination of things, but you as a parent have control over the money part of the problem.

Answer 3

When parents give up their leadership role in the home, children pick it up and run with it.
Saying No to your kids won't kill them, won't harm them emotionally, but it will keep them from throwing tantrums when they are 40, because someone disagreed with them.
We teach children what is acceptable behavior and what is not. This is their first time around in the world, and they can't figure a lot of it out on their own. Doesn't mean they are stupid, it just means that they haven't been taught yet.
Children are going to try to get away with everything, its called testing the boundaries. If there are no boundaries, they feel insecure and fearful. When they figure out that no boundaries means they can walk all over mom and dad, they will.

Answer 4

First, I think it's a bit of both.

Not all of us parents were abused and had hard times but by not following the steps of our parents we've raised a bunch of monsters.

Now a days people are afraid to spank their children because of society. There is a difference between spanking and abusing and societies do-gooders have narrowed that line.

Yep, when parents raised their brats with this "let lil johnny do what he wants he's just exploring and learning" the rest of society pays for the parent's stupidity.

I for one will not tolerate other people's BAD children and that's when I go looking for the parents who unleashed them.

Answer 5

I think a big part of it its because both parents usually have to work these days, so maybe they feel guilty for the lack of "quality time" spent on their kids, so they try to make up for it with material rewards. Also, since they both work, they are left in day cares, or with baby sitters, or on their own, and aren't taught manners, or how to be caring towards others. In this answers community I've noticed that many young people seem to have an ugly view of anyone that is too emotional, like it's a weakness. It's an "everybody out for themselves" attitude. To me, that's scary.

Answer 6

I know I spoil my daughter due to the fact I grew up poor and wanted things that my mom couldn't afford. I remember the feeling of inadequates, and never want my daughter to feel or think she any lesser of a person b/c I couldn't provide for her what society deems necessary. IE name brands, new toys, latest movies, Cd's, DVDs, etc. Thank God she's only 3 and I have time to teach her we have to work for what we want, and not just expect it. At 3 she gets 5 pennies a day to help out around the house. When she gets 1.00 she buys a bag of licorice!, and she "shares her hard work!" lol

Answer 7

Yes, I do think it is the parents fault, who else's fault WOULD it be? Oh, wait thats right, the tv! the music they listen to! the magazines they read...

but wait..WHO buys these things for them....the parents.

Society can be in total anrachy, but it is still up to the parents to raise them properly. But, because the governemtn has invavded our homes and say "You can't displine your child, it's abuse" many parents are afriad of properly disiplineing their kids. If you can't spank a kid, or pop them on the hand, how are they going to know that YOU are in charge, and YOU are to be respected?

i don't wanna hear the old line "That teaches kids violence" nooo..that teachs your kids that if they act out, they are going to get whats coming to them. When they leave mommy and daddys house, and they p1ss someone off, they are going to get a beatdown. So, a pop on the hand when your 2 or a hopsital stay when you're 20?

Everyone is always tring to find a scapgoat to blame their won and their kids bad behavor on. OWN UP TO YOUR LAZINES PEOPLE. Be a f*cking parent, and stop being such a pansy. If you kid acts out, displine them. If they backtalk, displine them. If you still think hitting is wrong, take their stuff away. No one said that you have to provide them with "cujte, stylish" clothing, just clothing. No one said they are entitiled to "yummy food" when they're abd, just healthy and filling.

Don't be afraid to take charge! And for christs sake, don't blame society...

Answer 8

Spare the rod, spoil the child....the answer, like most answers is in the Bible. I am not saying to beat them senseless but a child's mind doesn't comprehend like an adult's, a certain amount of conditioning is required. Discipline is not a bad word....it's a gift. It takes discipline to get up and go to work everyday...it takes discipline to get the most out of an education...it takes discipline to resist temptaion...discipline is a necessity.

Answer 9

Parents don't want their children to experience the hard life that they had when they were kids, that's why they spoil their kids by giving them everything and letting them do what they want.

Answer 10

This questions has been asked since the beginning of recorded history. I think the same answer applies:
Children are the same as they always were - selective remembering is what makes you believe that they are not.