What did you do or say , when you found out you have been cheaten by your husband or wife ?

Answer 1

Communication is always important in a relationship, so now more than ever you need to talk, find out why (you were cheated on). Can the relationship be saved.? Only you can know that,but don"t let him or her tell you that he or she cheated because of something you did wrong or said. If you truly love each other and you can forgive him or her(forgiveness is also very important,for both parties) then you can go day by day and hopefully "feel the love " again. Good luck

Answer 2

I have not as far as I know been cheated on by my husband but if I were I would have to ask why. What is he lacking from our relationship that he has to go and find it elsewhere. If you can forgive him (if he says it won't happen again) you should make time for just the two of you to do some soul searching and open the communication. This way you can figure out if it was a one time thing or is it likely to happen again. Good luck and stay strong

Answer 3

Maybe suggest that you both take some time away from eachother (i dont mean an open relationship) to really think about your marriage and what it means to you, where you both are at this point, and whether you both still love eachother. See how things pan out. If they come back to you begging for forgiveness and you really love the person by all means take them back and at that point sit down and have a talk with them abotu everything that went on.I hope this helps you.

Answer 4

when it happened to me, i asked him to come home, told him i loved him, his response over the phone was to laugh, tell me every wrong the marriage had, no doubt to impress the home wrecker. i hung up the phone, never asked to reconcile again, filed for divorce, moved away and accepted it. but first u may have to put away that ego, and pride, and hurt, ask him where his heart is at, because if it ends and there is a divorce at least u can always look back and know u were willing to forgive and forget, and try to save the marriage. than u don't have to look back on it, and have regrets later on, u will also be able to tell if he is truthful if it is a done deal or if there is hope. it is always better to find out if he still loves u, than divorce him and never know, best to get it from the horses mouth.

Answer 5

I yelled and cried and asked him to end it with her. I wanted to try to save our marriage--he didn't. He never told me why he cheated, even though I asked. It's been almost 2 1/2years since then and we're just now getting divorced--altho we seperated 2 years ago. I was really pissed off when I found out--if he'd been home at the time I would've beaten the hell out of him with a baseball bat. Luckily my friends were there for me and calmed me down before he got home.

Answer 6

I screamed, yelled cried, threw things, but in the end I had to look at the whole picture.....he didn't love her and we were in a very bad place in our relationship. We worked through it and are still married and now he's 100 % faithful.

Answer 7

well i was seprated when i found out i only seen my husband kiss another women i heard hes letting some one live with him i don't doult it because he won't work i kept him up so somebody is paying the rent i wish i knowed how to catch him so i can have proof i don't have any kids by him

Answer 8

WOW! I expected the crazy cat ladies to eat this one up...aint seen but one yet....ok 3 now

Cheating is a symptom of a marital problem...and no kissing isn't cheating....screwing is.

I took a long look at our day to day lives...the answer was there all allong.

Answer 9

I listened to why , tried to resolve the problem that caused "us" to cheat , then eventually figured out we both had serious relationship issues to resolve.

Answer 10

I told him he was scum and let him know he was sackless. Then I packed up his stuff and put it on the porch. I was devastated but it was rather empowering to be the one to end it.