I have an online friend that has become like a best buddy over the years; someone that I would consider a true friend even though we haven't met. Problem is this person always tells me, "Hey, I am gonna be online tonight at this time, please be here" or something to that extent. He has done this several times and then never shown up. Everytime he has an excuse. At first it was fine, since it really wasn't a big deal. But then he has continued to do that over and over and I have gotten to the point where I really don't want to talk to him because of this. I just know that any of my other friends would be where they would say they were going to be, and being online shouldn't be treated differently. I feel like you should show people the same respect whether online or in person. There are actually some important projects that we work on together (we are both in the same field), and when he doesn't show up that really slows my process. So not only friend wise does he do this, but sometimes on a professional level too. I've told him over and over that if he is not going to be around or doesn't know for sure, then not to say that he is going to be. I've given him numerous chances and he has done this over and over for at least 6 months if not more. Am I overreacting? What would you do in this situation? Would you stop talking to the person? I've told him over and over about his behavior , and now I am to the point where I don't know if I am just being too picky or if I have a valid reason not to talk to him anymore, which is the way I am leading to now. Thanks all!
2007-02-25 03:40:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Has NOTHING at all to do with turning the pc off and meeting people. I have to work to make a living, meaning that I can't just turn my pc off. When you grow up and have financial obligations and depend on business partner for certain aspects, then maybe you will understand it has nothing to do with the drivel that you just wrote. On the other hand, even as a friend, whether online or OFF, a certain courtesy should be there. Something you are clearly lacking.
2007-02-25 03:47:23 · update #1
Sassy,
Thanks for you comment, and I do agree. Thing is he isn't just a random person online. He used to work at the same company my brother did so I know all about his background, where he lives, and know 100% he is who he says he is. That's how we got in business together to begin with. You are abosutely in the other things though. I guess online is "online". I've always treated people with the same respect and didn't think a computer should turn someone into something they aren't. I am probably going to just toss this friendship into cyber garbage, which is kind of sad since he is usually a wonderful person.
2007-02-25 04:00:36 · update #2
you shouldnt trust a man whom you have never ever seen
sometimes we are even deceived by our best known people
you block him
and talk no more
2007-02-25 04:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you know "online" relationships are a bit different than reality. He can be whomever he wants to be online; so can you. You really don't know. OK, he's nice and you guys chat and enjoy each others company; but, he might be married with 10 kids for all you know! So...he doesn't respect you, he tells you to wait for him and doesn't show up; hummmm....something is up, right? Well, it doesn't matter. This is "online". You can be whomever you want to be. Don't take this "friendship" so seriously. Be there when you want to talk and when it's inconvenient, just go to bed. You can't live your life for someone online. If I were you I'd find someone "real time" to share my projects with and only talk to this person when it was convenient for you. No one can take advantage of you unless you allow it. OK? Godloveya!
2007-02-25 11:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is one thing i really hate, its a liar, you can never fully trust someone who tells lies. My advice to you would be just to do what you feel if you would prefer to cut ties and not speak to him again well thats fine, but if you enjoy chatting with him then as long as you keep it friendly and nothing else thats ok then its only harmless fun and no one will get hurt, but just remember he's a liar so dont be taken in by everything he says.
Good luck in which ever option you choose i wish you all the best.
2007-02-25 12:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by minnymouse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but if you havent met him before then that is sad because this person could be a creep or could be a BIG FAT LIAR, maybee he made all of the stuff up about him. just forget about it and stick to your friends that you actually can SEE!!!
2007-02-25 11:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG
turn off your computer and go out and meet people.
That's where he is when he isn't online looking for you.
Cmon.
2007-02-25 11:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
block him from your messenger service and stop responding to his e-mails apperently he has found something better to do with his time than to set ant chat on the net
2007-02-25 11:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're in different time zones
2007-02-25 13:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋