I'm 18 years old. My best friend for the past 5 years has always had parties house parties, birthday parties, everything and never ONCE bothered to invite me! She always tells me to my face she is having them but never once has even bothered to invite me. This year i finally confronted her about it for the 2nd year IN A ROW and here is what she told me.
"hey Kristin i told u i was having a party.... and let me explain for like the 2nd year in a row... i didn't know if it would mix well... u don't know ANY of my xc friends and that would just be akward and for my other friends you didn't know most of them so i thought it would be weird i was just going to have a small get together with you and kelly or something but then i wasn't sure 'cuase its like 3 parties in a row"
so kelly ended up going to this party!!!
i don't understand what she meant by this and everytime i ask her she just says "it's complicated"
should i still consider her a friend even? I'm almost crying it hurts
2007-02-25 03:37:50 · 18 answers · asked by pantherkick07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she now told me her other best friend hates me and that she didn't want drama at my party so she decided to not invite me!
2007-02-25 03:39:41 · update #1
Hm, how harsh. To be honest it sounds like she may be using you for something. She doesn't sound like a friend. Friends don't do that. I've never done that. I have a variety of friends that don't all hang out in the same clique but I still invite all of them to my get togethers.
Be careful, and I'm so sorry you're hurting!
2007-02-25 03:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by skatersrock106 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like this person who you have called a best friend all this time is NOT being a best friend to you. She is not being straight with you about things and is leading you on and not inviting you to parties if she is indeed your best friend just doesn't make any sense. I would say that unfortunately, she is not being the friend to you that you seem to have been to her. I would chalk this up as a loss, and move away from her. I understand that this is a very hard thing to do, but I think it is a very necessary thing to do. You don't want to even be associated with a person who is not giving to you what you give to them. I hope this helps and good luck to you.
2007-02-25 11:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by annecsabagh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you consider her as your best friend for five years !
My dear, I have always thought that best friends should share everything in life, bad or good. That girl seems to be ashamed of you being her friend when she is with these other people.
She doesn't trust your ability to deal with them. I fear it is a matter of social status and that she wants to have friends of what she thinks may be of higher social status. Friendship as love must not take social status into account.
They are feelings of higher moral consideration.
So, don't let her down, but try to find some other friends.
There is one good friend waiting among them for sure, and this time a true one.
Stop crying and look into the world with a beautiful smile on your face. After all, you are so young and plenty of time left for you in this life.
2007-02-25 11:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just drop her. If she is your bestfriend, she'd invite you no matter what. That's kinda mean and you don't deserve that as you being a nice friend, I suppose. Kelly is kinda mean to just ditch you and go to the party. So get new friends, and start over coz it's unfair.
What's xc?
2007-02-25 12:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by try_and_get_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dump her aparently she dosent know how to treat a true friend maybe she is the type that can only have 1 friend at a time i would tell her that you are finishe been her number 2 and not to even bother talking to you you have feelings too she should be more conciderit and she sounds like a snob to me find you a new friend and my saying is finding a poor friend is finding the best friend so look for someone who dosent have everything handed to them on a silver platter and has to work for what they get and it will be a true friendship not one that revolves around other people
2007-02-25 11:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a party without inviting her!Use the same excuse that she used if she ask you why.
I believe that she ain't worth your friendship.So do not get worried enjoy your party and don't always give to much to others.
Learn to love and be good friend with yourself first and then...friends will find you!Good luck
2007-02-25 11:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by boubouka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she 's your REAL friend, she'd invite you to her party, insted of rubbing it in your face. A true friend would hang out with you all the time and not worry about what other people think
2007-02-25 11:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU do not want or need friends like that, do not let this person upset you she is not a very happy person if she has to make you feel the way you are feeling. This is away for her to try to be happy so do not let her win by letting her see that it bothers you ,that is what she wants. Make real friends.
2007-02-25 11:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. If that's your best friend, she needs to be fired. She may have been yours, but it doesn't seem that you were hers.
I wouldn't seek her out anymore. If she called, I'd tell her I was busy. If she asked for further information, I'd say "it's complicated."
P.S. You can't have two best friends. That defies the whole meaning of "best."
2007-02-25 11:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is full of it and she is not your friend. For some reason, she doesn't want you to meet her other friends. She could be jealous of you or act a different way around them. It's time to lose her and find new friends.
2007-02-25 11:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋