what should I do?

Question

In my husbands eyes, everything I do is wrong. I can say or do anything without it turning into a fight. I am not aloud to go anywhere and if I tell him that I am going somewhere then we get into this big fight and he end up locking his truck, which I don't have keys to, and he takes my car. I don't want to be with him anymore but I don't know what to do in order to leave him. We have a 21 month old child together and just found out I was pregnant again, even though we were using condoms. Now he thinks that I cheated on him and that this child that I am pregnant with isn't his. I have never cheated on him but he doesn't believe me. He tells me all the time that he wishes I would kill myself. I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

Seek legal and professional help, NOW! It seems like your husband has a problem with not being in control. He definitely has some aggression issues, and if you allow yourself to be in this situation much longer I can almost guarantee that the resulting impact on both of your children will be devastating... Tell me something, when you met him was he like this? Or did it just develop out of the blue, and over time get worse? These are things to look for, if he started out the nicest guy in the world, and then morphed into the jackass you know today, he's just getting started, you haven't seen the worst of it, or the last of his rage spurts, yet. Right now you are in no position to try to physically retaliate, but work your way around it. If you have friends that you know won't interact much with him, set up an emergency plan, just in case they get worried. Set down some ground rules, and make sure they are clear cut. Emergency contacts should include the police, the area hospitals, and a close relative that you get along with, as well as a neighbor in the area who can observe what is going on, or not going on, in case your friends do feel the need to enact the emergency recovery scenario. It's going to be difficult, but find something outside the house that you can use to defend yourself. You'd have to buy or borrow it. He's probably a lot more paranoid at this point, so small subtleties that would normally make no difference will stand out to him now, keeping it hidden in an area that he doesn't think you spend much time in, but that he doesn't hang around either is best... Make sure you have an emergency plan with your kid, and if he can talk, just explain to him that when mommy needs him to get up and start going, no questions should be asked. A person in your husbands position is not above grilling his own child, if he is afraid that his wife will have a means of escape, and the kid will talk, and then you'll both be in for it. I'll keep you in my prayers, b/c I've seen what this kinda stuff can do to a child in their later years, and I know what it drove the parents to... Peace and GOD bless!

Answer 2

You need to get out of there. Get ahold of your local women's and children's shelter. He is mentally abusing you and that can be much more dangerous than physical in a way because the damage he is doing to your self-esteem can take years to get back. Go to the shelter, they will get you set up with everything you need, and tell you where the welfare office is where they will start getting you food stamps and welfare checks very quickly, if not in the same day. They can help you get started working and provide assistance with your child. It is hard I know, but in the end it will be much better for you and your child. You can find a secure, trusting, loving husband later on, but right now, worry about yourself and that child. Good Luck!

Answer 3

at like 3 am or anytime you can get away without him knowing go to your moms or betfriends house and if he comes to find you and threatens you in any way call the police adn btw get papers for a divorce!

Answer 4

You know what to do. It's obvious. Just do it and quit wasting your life with this, this male. Why don't you like yourself???

Answer 5

Leave him.