Okay, obviously our relationship wasn't what we'd consider perfect at the end. We were a young couple with two kids and that places stress on any relationship (but I'm not blaming the children). However, we were doing "okay" when he decided to break up with me. Things were not wildly out of control, nor was he acting angry towards me. But shortly after he broke up with me, he acted angry... Why?
2007-02-25 03:26:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't necessarily care-- however, 1x/week and every other weekend I have to deal with him b/c he gets the kids... Ideally, I tried to figure this out on my own and offered him separate counseling so "we don't feel so negatively towards each other" not to get back together! I thought it'd be best for the kids if we aren't angry w/one another. That option didn't work though, so that's why I'm trying to figure it out on here. So I can see things more clearly too and maybe do my part to make the current situation better.
2007-02-25 03:36:55 · update #1
first you said it you are young .pro ably do not have a lot of experience. things were not OK. he just could not tell you what was bothering him. us guys think the grass was greener on the other side.that we missed something.not realizing that the right person is sitting right next to us.stress has a lot to do with it .now he is probably getting some stupid feed back .because he is giving only his side of story not the whole picture.both of you might have done a little diff rent.before it got broken.was he telling you what was bothering him? no sex or whatever it was?were you telling him you still loved him but were just dam tired you would try to give him more attention? i know that you worked your but off but guys are big baby's ther feelings get hurt so easily . he might thought he was more important than he was its not either ones fault just young that why i told my daughter to give serious thought before a baby .try it for a while .the person we fall in love with 2-4 yrs later might have been for sex not true love sorry but be strong somehow i ll pray for you kids and him he is hurt is why he is acting that way .just pray for GODS help it will be ok!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! let me know when he apologizes he really does not mean to be this way
2007-02-25 03:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by JAYHAWKER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a relationship ends it hurts and when we are hurt we react to the pain. Everyone is different and behaves differently when in pain. I am going through a recent break up too, with children and we will have alternating weeks with our kids. Starting today in fact. We have only seen each other a few times in the last 2 1/2 weeks and everytime I see my husband of 22 years I see RED! I am full of anger, hate, resentment, bitterness- you name it. To be on the receiving end of betrayal brings out the worst feelings I have ever had in my life. I am doing my best to control what I say and do when I see him but it is very difficult, to say the least. I limit our time to just a few minutes. And yesterday I actually prayed to GOD to help me because he was coming over to pick up our girls things for their first week at his new house; which he had just spent a week shacked up with his girl friend who was there from out of state while our kids were on vacation at his moms-UGH!!! he didn't even tell me she was here I found out by driving by----ANGER YOU BET!!!! It has reared it's ugly head and I am all too aware of it. Praying seemed to help me yesterday. Also a somewhat neutral place. I have moved everything of his that is being moved out of our home to the garage. When he comes over I just open the overhead door and he comes in that way. We talk only of important news, girls, mail, etc. he picks up stuff. I leave the overhead door open so there is no feeling of being totally alone with him. After he loads up his van and starts awkward conversation like is there anything I can do to help anything you need me to do? I feel the anger rise-I say No and then goodbye-he promptly leaves and I close the overhead door. So far its working. I think we all need to go thru our anger to get to the other side of it. Its a package deal a circle just as the circle of life. Its how we react to our anger that is important. If any violence is immenent do not meet in private. Arrange for a public exchange/meeting with the children a restaurant or school parking lot when kids get out of school. Somewhere where there are lots of people around it will limit bad behavior on both sides. good luck...look to the future...
2007-02-25 04:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by just breathing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's kind of funny I always wandered the same thing, my exwife chose to end the marriage and would have it no other way, but was so angry afterwards that it was hard to deal with her, I only assumed that she had a plan of breaking the news to me and me get all desperate and romance her some and she would be in the power seat, but it didn't play out that way and I told her as long as she was sure that is what she wanted and I was done. so I could only figure that it didn't work out to the way she thought it would and she was angry about it. who knows how some peoples minds work.
2007-02-25 03:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many many stuff. Stereos, CDs gamers, a ceiling fan, an entire cupboard of movies and DVDs, a Kawai keyboard, laptops, pc towers, keyboards, mouses, a printer (threw it out the window 4 flooring up), some televisions, chairs, tables, a rest room, an excellent sort of telephones which consists of a sort of public payphones, cups, plates, pottery, bottles, doors, domicile windows, partitions, people's noses... this is genuinely considered one of the optimal issues I do when I get annoyed. I harm sh*t. Yell and harm sh*t.
2016-10-01 23:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by deralin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He and only him can give you this answer. I would attempt to break down the wall and speak with him directly. Allow him room and space. Good Luck
2007-02-25 03:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because he is......he's angry to be on his own, angry that he lost his family, angry that he is starting all over....who knows how many things....but it is a normal reaction and hopefully he will move beyond that stage soon....good luck
2007-02-25 03:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? You're broken up. Move along, nothing to see here.
2007-02-25 03:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him because before you know it the children will be feeling the anger too if they don't already.
2007-02-25 03:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who cares why, that's his issue not yours.
2007-02-25 03:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say break up with him
2007-02-25 03:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by ilovedadq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋