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jus to let u all know with an update with us both, we spoke yesterday and its weird because we both agree on everything and how we both feel but she just kept on upseting me by speaking negatively about us by saying " what if we promise to stay together and fall in love with someone else?", and "what if our familys dont get along because of us?" i kept on tryin to assure her that only we can let that happen between us, she agrees with me and stuff and then she said to me she needs to think about it because of all that weve been through and i respected it and told her to take all the time she wants to think, i just feel reeli hurt because ive got a horrid feeling that she might leave now i just feel helpless about it all now, should i just leave her and not get hurt?? i love her so much, id do anything for her and would wait for her and so dus she, but ive got a horrid feeling that this is going to turn out to be a love tragedy for both of us and i dnt know how much more i can do.

Answer 1

love hurts....havent you heard? what i see going on here is that she doesnt love you like you love her or she would be onboard. i dont mean to sound hateful, but you have got to know this deep down inside. let her lack of decision be your decision to move on. soon enough after youve thought this thing through you will find that your relationship was doomed from the beginning and life is already hard enough without all that drama. love shouldnt be that hard. keep in mind that in your future, unless your religion plays a major part in who you marry that your parents or hers have nothing to do with it. its your life and your future, not theirs after "i do". good luck and best wishes.

Answer 2

You are both very young...but I understand how you feel. I meet my husband at 16 and we have been married for 14 years and still going strong, and neither of our parents were very cooperative - parents want the best for their children. My parents now love my husband and the with his parents, they love me, they don't like each other, but each love us together. Love is patient...her questions could be her parents questions to her, she is having a hard time answering them, so asked you the some ones, the ones about the parents...in an ideal world, it would be great for the in-laws to get along, but truth, it really doesn't matter..Mine don't. You two need to keep your contact and maybe just try to get out together, take a walk through the park, go out for dinner. Until she is a little older, you will have a hard time getting this okayed by her parents. But if you are as close as you express, you two will be fine. Love is Patient. Just ask her to be honest with you...Love is Kind...if she wants to be with someone else, have her be honest with you about it. Good luck.

Answer 3

ive always telling this to a person that needs advice especially like your case. If you really love her you need to set her free and to avoid hurting yourself again.if you were meant to each other no matter how long it takes and no matter what happens she'll be back to you.You can't push her to go on, if she wanted a break up, give it to her. Take your time let her think.This for the better of you two.Give her a chance to be happy again and as well as you.Give yourself time to think about what you really wanted ,the more you insist in this relationship the more you hurt her and yourself so in other words you two needs a break.

Answer 4

dude , you need some hormone replacement therapy, you have too much progesterone in your system. your girlfriend isn't getting a man, she is getting a girlfriend, if she starts to fancy girls, you will know why. guys work from logic not feelings. girls work from feelings, it's a good idea kind of thing, not I have a horrid feeling. good luck nancy............