I love my husband, I want him back. We have been married 9 years. I left him when I watched my mom die. I was snuggled in the bed with her when she took her last breath..2 weeks later I left my husband. I was mixed up, depressed and confused about everything. Now that I have had time after my mom died and looked back on our family, I want that back.
I miss my kids and husband. He kept the kids because of my depression and all.
I see my kids and husband everyday, we hang out. But he moved a woman in the house already. Her and her son. They only knew eachother 2 weeks and she let her house go to live with him. They are stupid. He says he wants me back. But will not just kick them on the streets.
He wants me to wait. I cannot stand the fact this other woman is with the family I want. My husband tell me he wants me back but he dont want to hurt her.
I think if he wants me back he wouldnt care about this other woman and he would take me back today.
2007-02-25 02:49:47 · 16 answers · asked by Navulam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What should I do? Is he just playing games and I should move on?
We do not have sex when we hang out, so I know it isnt because he has 2 women he wants me to stick around.
I am so confussed and need advice.
2007-02-25 02:51:13 · update #1
We only been seperated 5 months.
2007-02-25 02:52:05 · update #2
We only been seperated 5 months.
2007-02-25 02:52:06 · update #3
Haven't you had enough yet when you do you will move on he has.The other women.????
2007-02-25 03:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was the same way after she spent a long time with her sister who was taken by cancer.
She was emotionally devistated and lashed out at me all the time. Telling me that our marriage was probably over and we had nothing left to talk about, she vented all her anger and confusion onto me.
But she never left me.
"For better or worse"
For him to move a woman in as soon as he did, tells me that when you left it must have been one nasty seperation.
I get the impression that you left making it clear you were through with him and there was NO WAY you would ever get back together with him.
If that is the case, then you have no one to blame but yourself.
You say he wants you back now too, that's great.
But, you will have to wait.
You can't just throw your family in the garbage can one day, then the next come to get it and expect everything to go back to normal like it was.
This something that is going to have to be done over a little more time than you are going to like.
If you get back together, how does he know your not going to bail out again if it gets rough in the future?
He tried to move on, because that's what you wanted him to do, now you come back and say "oh, I didn't mean it"????
You bailed, it's a long road back, you lucky he is even considering it.
2007-02-25 03:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband to have a talk with you. Start out the conversation apologizing for leaving but explain all the emotions you were going through in loosing your mother. Be totally honest with him.
The other woman is probably going to get hurt but what kind of woman has a man move in with her with only knowing him for two weeks? She certainly cannot be a well put together stable woman.
Ask your husband for a chance to rekindle your marriage. And then do all you can to make it work.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 03:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Move back in and sleep in the same room as your husband, even if all you can stand to do is sleep on the floor. This is so the other woman doesn't go in his bed.
By now she should feel stupid.
Then never leave them alone together.
Then find another place for her to stay. Ship her stuff over there and change the locks while everyone's out.
OR!!! Move back and bring some young guy in to camp out on the floor because he too has no place to go!! THEN have them babysit your kids while you two go out on date nights!! Treat the woman like a maid. She's not paying rent, right??
2007-02-25 02:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's still your house. You say he wants you back , believe him. Go to YOUR house when she's there and confront the two of them with what is going to happen. Tell the both of them they have one week to resolve the dilemma they have created because you are moving back in. Then do it. She found a place to stay with him now she can find another.
By the by, I think he may have known her longer than two weeks. And you Missy, the next time you have issues, let your husband be your support and don't throw his life away again.
2007-02-25 03:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey look up and see all of that good advice. If you don't know what to do then baby you need to seek help some where else. First do what you think is Best for you and your kids. Take care and hope you can work it out.
2007-02-25 14:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by firecoolerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you turn your back on your spouse in a time of need? He should have been your support while you were dealing with your grief and depression.
The two of you need to talk this out calmly and rationally. If he asked this woman to move in to help take care of your children, she may not have anywhere else to go. Tell him you'll help her find an apartment and another job.
2007-02-25 02:57:12 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think of of it out of your husband's attitude: in case you're examining for all time and can't be there with him, what's he meant to do? he's got here upon something to fill in his time with in case you're examining. for the reason that he's in ordinary instructions, he probably has an excellent sort of time. He could flow partying and ingesting with others, yet he's finding out directly to stay in and play video games particularly, the place he remains on the ingredient of you. you won't be in a position to get indignant at him for looking a distraction mutually as you learn. Granted you probably shouldn't learn lots once you're the two loose from type (attempt examining interior the morning or whilst he's at school). i could agree that in case you tried donning something provocative in front of him mutually as he's enjoying, you will discover out basically how at as quickly as he's prepared the throw the interest aside to get you.
2016-10-01 23:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by deralin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should divorce your husband he should of been there for you to coffort you when your mom died my mom also died beside me when i was 18 she had cancer so i know what your going threw it's hard to lose your mama and it get's easier but you alway's will miss her i've dreamed about mine over the year's some day we'll be with our mom's in heaven thier not suffering anymore i'm going to be 59 may 30th i could talk to my mom about anything and we would laugh and kid each other i wish she had got to seen my two kid's i was single when she died i'm sorry about your mom it's hard to let them go i was her youngest girl i got 2 sister's two brother's my youngest brother is the baby of us you'll grieve for a long time just pray do what's best for you but he should make that women go if he wants your marrige to not break up
2007-02-25 03:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yuck. tell him to kick the intruder out! you're still married, right? he's being a jerk. he should have been more understanding with you, and waited for you to come out of your depression and realize you need your kids and YOUR family. he should have the balls to explain all this to the other woman. and she should be understanding enough to get the hell out of your house! if nothing else, threaten to get a lawyer to start working on a custody case for your kids. threaten whatever you have to to make your husband grow some frickin balls! what a mess. I'm so sorry. i hope you get your family back soon.
2007-02-25 02:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Emily H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He isn't interested in you anymore he has someone new to play with you should just move on if he has told you he doesn't intend on hurting her then he is there to stay sorry for your loss with your mom but unfortunately you have lost your husband too.
2007-02-25 02:57:27 · answer #11 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋