Most of my friends have girlfriends. I don't have a girlfriend. I want to find my true love already. The main problem is this, I don't have a majority amount of female friends. Nor even I have close female friends. How can I overcome this? I tried to talk to new people but they still think I am a stranger. I ask them about their day and their weekend and etc. They only answer me because they are being nice, weren't interested in being friends. Anyone help please? I really really want to find my true love already.
2007-02-25 02:25:51 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Try complimenting a female.
Notice something nice about her and acknowledge it.
2007-02-25 02:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do things in order to "get" a girlfriend. If you do something in order to get something, that is not love. That is why when you ask girls about their day etc, they can sense that you want something.
Do not make conversation simply for the sake of making conversation. That is false and fake. Do not talk when you have nothing meaningful to say. It is a waste of words for you to speak, and a waste of time for others to listen to. Save your words - they are valuable.
Silence is best, sometimes. Connections can be built even through silence - and even because of silence. Be friendly, courteous, and caring in your speech and action - this can be done even with short sentences or words. Even just a "Hello" or "Hi" can be special, depending on the spirit of how you say it.
Instead of focusing on what you want from other people, perhaps you should focus more on what you can give to other people.
Here are some things you can do:
1. Find your passion(s) in life. Whatever they are, do and develop them. The more passionate you become in your life, the more you will attract/inspire others. Passion, after all, is an essential ingredient in both life and love. That is not a coincidence. To have fire, be fire. Live from your heart.
2. Volunteer. If you want love, be love and give love. Again, only volunteer in things you care about. You will discover that when you give, you receive a lot more. When you become more loving, you will gradually attract more love.
3. Decide what kind of person you want to be in this life - and move towards being that person. (Look to those people who you genuinely respect and admire for who they are, and not what they have - NOT their $$$, looks, jobs, fame, etc.) Be the best person you can be. When you are becoming a better person, others will begin to see the better in you.
These ways are slower and you may not attract love anytime soon, but long-term, they are better for you - and for the one you love.
Again, do not do these things with the intention of "getting". It will pollute the spirit of love. That is why the more you chase after love, the farther away it flies. You have to let it go - in order for it to come to you. True love is not about getting another person, but about you "being true", and about you "being love".
(P. S. And don't confuse "girlfriend" with "true love". They are not the same thing. If you focus too much on "true love", you may be focusing too much on perfection, and nobody is perfect. Just focus on "like" for now, and love will eventually follow.)
2007-02-25 05:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by sky2evan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask some of your friends if their gf's have any single friends they can hook you up with. if that doesn't work you should try joining a group like maybe bowling, softball, something in church, or go to the grocery store they usually have postings on a bulletin board that need people to get involved in some sort of community activities. from what i've learned though, the minute you stop looking for the right person is when you will find someone. good luck.
2007-02-25 02:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋