okay I'm 14 and I have a really how do you say..... hard life my parents drink every night and I go to school with black eyes I deal with the works sexual physical (puched into walls, hit, kicked etc.) and it gets phycological everyone at my school is close I'm really close with two teacahers and I got a email from one of my freinds about 2 days ago and some kid found out and is tellling the teacher I'm REALLY close to I don't know what to do and he knows I don't want to be in foster care cuz I couldn't deal with that I'm just too messed up (self-mutlate and I'm anorexic/bulimic) but the question is would a teacher at my school be able to you know adopt me or let me stay with them untill things sorted out?
2007-02-25 02:06:44 · 13 answers · asked by wordoflifecamplover10 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
okay I'm 14 and I have a really how do you say..... hard life my parents drink every night and I go to school with black eyes I deal with the works sexual physical (puched into walls, hit, kicked etc.) and it gets phycological everyone at my school is close I'm really close with two teacahers and I got a email from one of my freinds about 2 days ago and some kid found out and is tellling the teacher I'm REALLY close to I don't know what to do and he knows I don't want to be in foster care cuz I couldn't deal with that I'm just too messed up (self-mutlate and I'm anorexic/bulimic) but the question is would a teacher at my school be able to you know adopt me or let me stay with them untill things sorted out? ---------------------------------------------------------by the way if I was taken I would actually be forced taken by our childrens aid society so would my parents STILL have to sign if I was FORCEFULLY removed :S sorry just curious
2007-02-25 12:46:09 · update #1
It sounds like things are really really hard for you at home and I truly feel for you. Foster care usually is dreaded by many however in your situation that may a good option.
You need to seek help for yourself. You have been through and are going through so much pain that you are now harming yourself in order to take away other pains brought on by others. You can not do that! You need to turn to someone that can help you. Is there another trusted family member? Or maybe talking to the teachers and seeking advice from them. I do not know if the teacher's would or are even allowed to do that. I know it sounds great to get away and go to someone showing they care and will not harm you, but that may not be an option. I do wish that you will really seek help for yourself. If you are this close with the teachers talk to them and see how they can help. Please try to stop hurting yourself. Your body is your temple. I understand from what you stated that it has been violated but you need to respect it. Do not lose respect in yourself. Hold your head up high and once you get the help you deserve this nightmare will start to become your past. Good Luck To You! Talk to someone, anyone, anyone who will listen. and do not stop talking until you get positive results!
2007-02-25 02:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by SoySrtaBonita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very touchy issue. The first step is normally for some kind of legal action to be taken. That would most likely find you put into some kind of care facility, like a group home or shelter, from which a teacher could, if they were willing probably gain temporary custody of you. It is not quite as simple as you just moving in with the teacher. There will be custody proceedings even after you are out of your home, but the law is designed to protect you and if you are being abused, you should go to the police and get things started.
2007-02-25 10:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not legally, no. You need to report this to someone immidiately (like the police). Your teacher can file for custody (you will probably stay with a relative until then: aunt, uncle, grandparents, etc.). I know that you want to stay with your teacher, but if that doesn't happen, just remember that everyone (besides your parents) cares about you, and will tryto find the best solution for you. You will need a veery stable home enviroment and psychiatric treatment after all of this. But no matter what, don't do anything rash, and call the police immidiately.
2007-02-25 10:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents would have to agree to give up custody which I seriously doubt they want to do.
Then you would become a ward of the state and would have to wait maybe a few years to go through the adoption process at which you would have to stay in either a foster or group home which could really suck.
Check into your state laws and see if you can become legally emancipated.
And get some therapy, darlin. You have to understand that none of this is your fault!
God bless and good luck to you.
2007-02-25 10:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have permission from them, the government (I think.) and you SHOULD tell the teacher. It doesn't matter what could happen then because you have worse chances of a way more horrible life being abused by your parents! It's better if she knows. When she does what is needed to be done, ask her if she can adopt you. She'll have to sign a lot of papers first so don't expect it to go that fast. And she could say no. But make sure she knows what's happening before you ask her!
2007-02-25 10:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A teacher at my school took in a 14 year old girl who was in a situation similar to yours. That girl stayed with the teacher and her family until she was 19. But, the parents had to give written permission first. A teacher cannot just move you in... that would be considered kidnapping. Your best move right now is to talk to your school counselor. They have training in these types of situations and can give you better advice.
2007-02-25 15:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just go and live with another person, your parent have to agree to let you go or the police has to step in and take you away, then your teacher could suggest to take you in as a foster child, but it might need the courts to decide that.
2007-02-25 10:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES deffinetly.
I am 14 too and i went through things with my stepmom.
but i had a real mom so i live with her and still see my dad occasionally.
you would have to have a good convo with your teaher and tell her about whats going on at home.
if your getting kicked and hit your parents wont have to sign anythnig at all.
they will take you out of there ASAP.
so u wont be in any danger.
and your teacher of course has to agree to take you in.
I hope EVERYTHING works out for you.
-Megan <3
2007-02-25 23:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by supernovah724 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In addition to a new home you also need some counseling to help you deal with all the abuse you have suffered from.I provide free Christian counseling over the internet and I'll be happy to help you.
Dr.Dean Crosby
drdeancrosby@yahoo.com
2007-02-25 17:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by DrDeanCrosby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They could technically but they would have to either want to adopt you permanently or register as a foster carer first, both of which would involve loads of hassle.
2007-02-25 10:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋