As any other women (or man) out there been cheated on and you haven,t had?

Question

the chance to confront the other person?
My husband had a 'cyber' affair with someone I knew. I found out
and everything is great between us now. (My husband and I had a
lot of issues that we have now finally managed to sort out). But I
have never got it off my chest to this 'other women' how I felt. All
I wanted was a 'sorry' but I cannot speak to her as I have been
warned off by members of her family. This is the only thing that
is stopping me from moving on. My husband has taken responsibility for his actions - so why can,t she? I have had
lots of (and still have) turmoil in my life and I think she owes
me an apology at the very least. Is it because she feels guilty
or is she frightened of what will happen if I reveal all to her spouse
who has little knowledge of what really went on?

Answer 1

the other woman will never be sorry, as if she felt anything or has good character or any morals she would not have been with a married man in the first place. u will never get an apology from her, best to leave it be. when we expect someone to be sorry and feel bad, we keep ourselves tied to that person/hurt longer than we need to. its your ego and pride that wants this woman to be sorry. believe me u really do not need to know what went on, or the whys, just thank god your husband came home and was accountable and remorseful about his wrong. what kind of woman does this? one who has no conscience, morals, or character. your actually the last person she would ever want to have any conversation with. do not seek revenge on her, revenge will bury u too along with her, in case u don't know it. u will never get to talk to her, unless u call her, but if u do be prepared for an ear full of whatever is her reality, be prepared for more hurt, and the opening up of old wounds that need to stay closed. good luck, it might be beneficial if u got some therapy, as it is hard to get over something like this, especially if u stayed in the marriage. good luck

Answer 2

You want justice. You want her to be a grown up and admit responsibility and confess her wrong ways. It restores some order to the universe. It's only natural.

EXCEPT - affairs aren't about justice, and order, and responsibility, and fairness, and being adult. Affairs are about selifshness, and deception, and running from responsibility, and being immature, and injustice.

So why would you expect her to suddenly come to her senses and gasp, "Oh my god! I have wronged a fellow sister. I must seek her forgiveness at once. Shame on me!"

She hasn't changed an ounce. She still wants to grease up her cheating a s s and slide past the consequences with her husband.

Certainly somehwere in your husband's email collection (and probably his memory) are her home and cell phone numbers. Or they are on a bill the phone company still has records of. I would get both numbers, and call both her - and tell her you want closure so you are confronting her - and her husband to inform him just how involved they were. Don't leave messages. Call until you are talking to live people. With a little investigative work on your part, this will be easy -- and fun for everyone involved!

Answer 3

Well she went to destroy your marriage that basically rocked the house right? Then they have a saying do so don't like so...
Go to her husband's job and tell him about it and how much it has caused. You want to get back at her this is the only way because telling her something wouldn't make anything matter an apology?
I must warn you doing this you would be lowering your standards I originally think that you should leave well alone.
Forget the past and work as well as focus on the future that's what matters now.

Answer 4

I have a relationship which started out as an affair two years ago. When I starting seeing him she was 7 months pregnant( yes I know horrible person that I am) but they had broke up boxing day 2005. Up until 2 months ago she still did not know and were still in contact due to little one. I called her because I was fed up with the ridiculas situtation. She asked to meet and we did as I felt I owed her an explaination of why I had been such a b****h to her- it made us both feel a lot better as we both had answers and there was no screaming at each other becuase at the end of the day it is down to the person two timing.

Answer 5

Hi, Yes my husband had an affair, and i suspected him of having an affair for years i just couldn't catch him, i dread to think what i would have done if i had caught them. I got him on a bluff, and he left 4 years ago i have never seen him since, i hear from him from time to time but never once have i had an apology from him or her for that matter. At first my life was in turmoil, and i was very angry but i learned to move on and i live my life to the full, i have never had another partner and dont think i ever will, but now i think of the old saying "What goes round comes round". I think you are so lucky your husband has admitted his faults, and failings. Live your lives to the full and forget about this other woman she just is not worth it. Dont let her spoil your life......

Answer 6

I found out that my husband was cheating on me with a friend of ours about 4 years ago. I had never confronted her until about 4 months ago, It made feel better. after all those years and tears, i finally got to tell her how i felt. I didn't rant and rave, i just told her how i felt. Just be careful, cause i really wanted to knock her teeth out. DO it, just be careful your emotions don't get the best of you.

Answer 7

Leave it alone now. You have your partner back, and he's sorry. By raking up all the old muck with 'her' you might end up opening old wounds. One good tip I learned a long time ago is : Write 'her' a letter, put everything down in words that you desperately want to say to her. Put it away somewhere safe, re read it a few times, and then destroy it. It's very cathartic.

Answer 8

you should not worry about her, but ur husband, if he took responsibility for what he has done thats what should comfort u, not the other. because today its her tomorrow it could be someone else, its not her 'fault' she is who she is and thats not ur concern. Ur husband is the one u chose to live with and he should be the one to worry about, because if he wont want to do it again he wont do it as many women will try. but if he wants to cheat in any way he will find someone to do it with. as long as he put thngs straight with her, and told her that he was wrong (not her but HIM, because everyone should judge themselves) and that he loves u and wants u, than thats ur 'revenge' , forget about her, a '****' will always be one, only she can realise if she's done smth wrong, and if u will tell her something nothing will change u'll just lower urself, she's not worth it. it shouldnt be ur level to straight things up with her. good luck i know it feels werid and u wanna take actions but stop and think that u worth more than that

Answer 9

I just let the guy know that I knew and then I would move on hes not worth the explanation or the hearing the exuses

Answer 10

She is frightened of the fact that you could pick up the phone and spill the beans to her husband...then her skanky butt would get kicked to the curb....

You have the power to ruin her life.....you can take the high ground and forgive her, or you can ruin her....choose wisely.