My husband and i have been together for 10 yrs. 4 times out of that i have found little hairspray can with vasiline all over it. The first time i found it he said he was curious on how it felt to be screwed up the butt. He said he didn't like it and would never do it again. But i keep fiding weird things. Anyways once again i found a can with vasiline on it and confronted him and he denied it. what should i do?
2007-02-25 01:22:43 · 18 answers · asked by lost in ok 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just because your husband may like some butt play does not make him homosexual or bisexual. Stop making him feel self-conscious by confronting him. Maybe you should go buy a small dildo for him....it would be much more comfortable than a hairspray can.
2007-02-25 01:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ask your husband these questions in a safer more gentle manner. Just because he likes anal stimulation does not mean he is gay.
It sounds like he feels some shame around these behaviors, and your questions (they sound sort of accusatory) are simply increasing that shame. Shame does not create an atmosphere of openness and honesty.
Instead of asking him directly about the can and Vaseline, try to engage him in an open and honest discussion about your sex life. If you have been together for 10 years, your sex life has probably become somewhat. Talk with him about ways to spice it up - ways that would increase your shared satisfaction. This will benefit you and will give you a chance to learn more about his desires and their possible motivations.
When you confront someone, you are essentially giving him an ultimatum which almost never encourages open and honest dialog. If you have been with this man for 10 years, I am guessing that you care for him and would prefer to have a productive conversation about this intimate topic.
2007-02-25 08:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Greg C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not necessarily mean that he's gay. Some guys like anal play. It stimulates the prostate gland, which is very sensitive. You could maybe offer to include it in your sex life to keep it from being his secret. Secrets can break a marriage if too much comes between people. At the least bring this out in the open and talk so that you two can move on from this sneaking around crap.
2007-02-25 04:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is my husband bi or gay?
2014-12-19 01:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A HAIR SPRAY CAN!
Why not a cucumber or carrot or something ................a hair spray can? Man that's heavy duty!
Why not get your vibrator and use it on him, you will both probably have the best sex ever!
Go Ahead!
Give it a try!
2007-02-25 08:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls: What is girl humour?
2017-03-02 04:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poll: what do u think (girls and guys)?
2017-02-18 07:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should by atrap on if you are comfortable and also make him come clean about his sexuality. Find out if he has ever slept with a man
2007-02-25 08:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a str8 guy that love my @ss played with. I use toys all the time and in fact my g/f used a strap-on once on me. it was the best. i never been with a guy or do i want to. so just have fun with it i do
2007-02-25 05:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by rick k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Many straight people like having things up their @ss.
2007-02-25 03:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by leavemebe_11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋