and it was such a terrible blow to the family. He had a massive heart attack, totally unexpected and the wife and kids are totally destroyed. I attended the funeral, sent flowers, but feel the need to do more. They are such wonderful people. Any suggestions? I know they need down time to grieve without the interference of outsiders right now. But, down the road, what could I offer this family to help them adjust to their life without their husband/Dad?
2007-02-25 00:34:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My suggestion would be don't go away. People believe grieving people need to be left alone, and I think exactly the opposite. Be present. The children will need someone to play with, and take them places like the park to get out and stay focused on life outside the death of their father. The mother will grieve unimaginably, and having someone around to just take some pressure off will help her feel free to do that. You don't want them to grieve themselves into depression and other issues, so being present and keeping an eye out always helps. I'm sorry to hear of the loss, keep their chins up some.
2007-02-25 00:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you can do is be therre for them. They need people to talk to. You may think they need alone time but that's not always true.
When my husband had a massive heart attack and died people where there for me right away. But after the funeral they seemed to drift way saying they didn't know what to say to me. But all I needed were my friends to talk to and get my feelings out. The worse thing was they told me they understood what I was going through. Believe me unless you lost your spouse you don't know what it is like. To this day some of my friends and in-laws hardly ever talk to me and it's going to be 5 years.
So be there for your friends sister in any way that she needs you because it is a very difficult time for all. Hopefully she won't lose the friends she had. That everyone is compasionate and understanding. I'm so sorry for her loss.
2007-02-25 00:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do now is NOT go over there. The family's still working though the changes this tragedy has brought onto them.
Just call and talk to your friend. Ask them if they need anything and you're there if they do. After about a week, call and ask to come over. Judging by what you said, I'm sure they'll be ready to see you.
I wish your friend luck through this time....at least she's lucky that you're her friend....;-)
2007-02-25 00:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by phillyvic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to get friends and family to visit them alot and spend as much time with them as possible they just lost the person that made them feel secure so they need to find that feeling of being secure and by being their and visiting them often will let them know people care and they have some one their for them! also dont show feelings of sadness around them cuz thatll just mak them feel worse try to keep a happy attitude around them
2007-02-25 00:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by Enrique L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that he is in a better place, watching over you with a smile on his face. He is now their guardian angel, making sure nothing bad will ever happen to them, and he is patiently waiting for all of them up in Heaven so they can be a family once more
2007-02-25 00:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why won't be in a position to you write them a card with what you basically wrote to us... i'm sorry on your loss, grief is a technique and would not basically flow away, it takes time formerly you're turning out to be the skill to settle for her loss, yet she could choose you to objective and make it ideal, convey regret and tell them which you won't be in a position to believe you may enable a stupid element like politics break your dating. tell them which you fee their friendship and which you do no longer think of of course whilst grieving and in line with danger the flow to became into too quickly. with a bit of luck they are going to forgive you for friendships paintings 2 techniques they could desire to miss you as much as you permit out them in the event that they do no longer attempt and make new ones, or talk those you have, you won't be in a position to cause them to do something they do no longer likely opt to, so do no longer basically blame your self. Peace, attempt and think of what your mom could do, and then pay attention the respond will come.
2016-10-01 23:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by matchett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to loose someone you love so un expectiveily. just let her know that you are there for her when ever they need you. If you want maybe sometimes you can bring or cook for them . just to make sure they are eating right. my condolences to the family.
2007-02-25 00:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you doing all you can, an just being a friend is the best, i let them know i be their if the need me, ,an latter on tell them he not gone , he live with them in the heart,,an in her kids, to all way rember him, an that realy all you can dp
2007-02-25 01:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for them and help out whenever possible.
2007-02-25 00:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hats off to u!!!
try ur best to help them!!!
2007-02-25 00:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by splendid!!!!!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋