i always focus on negative issues not positive how can i change my way of thinking?

Answer 1

You could start by choosing any one genuninely positive truth about yuorself such as your intelligence, your courage or your willingness to grow, and back that up with abundant repetition of a relevant and true affirmation. And/or you could connect consciously with the Divine who is ever within you, the Source of All Love.

Answer 2

It takes a conscious effort. Resolve to think positively and optimistically each day, and it will become a habit for you. Start small, spend say 5 minutes at the start of your new 'growth time' deliberately thinking positive thoughts.

These can be on anything you like but good ones can be: your self-image, other people, money, love and relationships, your home life etc etc. ALWAYS MAKE SURE YOU ARE THINKING IN THE PRESENT TENSE - as if good things are actually happening to you then and there.

Repeat these thoughts often. You don't have to believe them (but if you do, that's fine) you just have to repeat them. with regular repetition, your mind will swiftly pick up the new messages you are sending it, and turn them into behaviours and feelings. You will also begin to believe these new posiitve thoughts.

Once you have completed 5 minutes a day, you can then 'raise the bar' and go for 10, 15, 20 and so on.

You will find that there is a 'spill-over effect' in your thinking. Once you think positively about one thing, you will also start thinking positively about others. Within a month or two, optimism will have become a habit for you.

You will certainly feel different. More cheerful, energetic, radiant, hopeful, people-friendly, humorous...the list goes on. Keep on reminding yourself of the benefits of optimism.

Some months ago, I answered this question:

WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF INCREASED POSITIVE THINKING? (one of my Best Answers) Here, I listed a whole number of effects that greater optimism can have.

You might also like to refer to the book in my sources. It is very helpful and teaches people how to use the powers of their minds in much more constructive ways.

Good luck

Answer 3

The fact that you are writing this at a computer, in a western country, I'm guessing, and have enough education and sense to realize your problem, is one way you can start to get over your negative feelings. Look around you and see ALL the people in the world that are living hand to mouth, without access to modern societies and computers and all that come with it, good and bad, and count yourself lucky that you are not one of them. I walk down the street and see beggers here in Paris and feel so lucky I don't have to do that to get by. If I am having a bad day then seeing then puts my life into a bit more perspective.

I know it is all YADA,YADA, YADA, but old truisms are true for a reason. Often they are right and work. Try it. The ONLY thing we all have absolute control over is our attitude and how we use it. Half full or half empty - look around you and see how fortunate you really are and you will begin to see the glass as half full.

Answer 4

Thomas Edison tried 1,000 different materials to find the right material for the light bulb filament. When somebody asked him how he felt about failing so many times, he said, "I wasn't failing. I was learning what didn't work."

And here's an old Chinese story:
An old man had a horse. (Good)
The horse ran away. (Bad)
The horse came back with a herd of wild horses. (Good)
The old man's son tried to tame one of the horses, but fell off and broke his leg. (Bad)
The army came into the village conscripting all the young men, but didn't take the son because of his broken leg. (Good)

The life principle is:

All negative issues have positive potential & advantages;
All positive issues have negative potential & disadvantages.

In every bad, there is a good. In every good, there is a bad.
In every strength, there is a weakness. In every weakness, a strength.

If you apply this principle to analyze every negative situation in your life, you will start to see that there are no "true" negatives. It's actually good to think about negative issues - as long as you analyze them objectively to understand the situation, and come up with a solution or alternative perspective.

Many business leaders have been successful simply because they spotted opportunities in times of crisis.

For example, a previous poster brought up the example of getting a "C". Where is the positive? In my opinion, the biggest positive is that your C is telling that your talent and potential is probably not in that subject. You should be focusing your effort in your strengths and positive talents. You feel bad about the C - but then this will lead to the question of whether or not grades will truly define yourself and limit your future. (If you do research of successful people, you will see that many of the smartest and most successful were poor students. Personally, I believe traditional education is detrimental to your mental health, but that's off-topic.) You have the chance to discover and decide what true success is, to go off the beaten path (which, by the way, is where opportunity usually lies). If the grade is still important to you, then the C is telling you that your learning/studying/teacher-student relationship/test skills need revising. In either case, you will be forced to discover a positive way to improve your situation.

Breaking up with someone? That person was obviously not the right one for you - and better that you discover now, rather than 5 years down the line. And hopefully, you learned what kind of person is better for you, and what you like or don't in other people. And at least you had the experience of the relationship - better to have loved and been loved, than not at all. And that experience will hopefully make you a better lover in the future. And if you suffer, then when others you love suffer the same experience, you will be better able to empathize and support them.

In the beginning, it might take some time and practice in order to identify the positives within the negatives - but over time, it'll become more automatic. And gradually, you'll become more positive, and think positively.

So I am strongly against simply ignoring negative issues, not thinking about them, hoping they'll pass or solve themselves, or being grateful for the remaining positives. I favor facing the negatives right in the face, identifying the positives, at which time they stop looking so negative, and become neutral or even positive.

Answer 5

Don't worry about thinking negatively from time to time- no ones perfect.
What works for me is to keep trying to see good in things/people.
The more you try to think positively, the easier it will become and then it'll become a habit.
For example, when my Dad's driving really slowly, I can't stand it! I feel like swearing or strangling him because it's so annoying! I know it's not nice to think this way so the next time I'm ever in the car with him I'll try to remember when he lent me the tenner I urgently needed or when he really made me laugh...

Answer 6

Oh, so you DO need to change your way of thinking? Why? :) It has 2 sides, methinks: fighting the shortcomings and stress from disappointment and bitterness... Just fight the shortcomings and don't let the bitterness creep through. I smoke nargile after having sex - helps in my case, but it's not a call for immediate action :)

Answer 7

Write down all of the reasons that you are lucky, e.g. you have enough food to survive, you have good friends, it is nearly summer, etc. Look at it every night before you go to bed. Also write down things that you would like to and are able to change, you may want to lose/put on weight, see your family more often, etc. Try to change on thing each week and then you can add an acheivement to your happy list each week until it gets bigger and bigger.

Answer 8

(that's relatively wordy and rambly. this is late and that i'm somewhat sleepy, yet i actually had to grant my 2 cents) i do no longer think that valuable thinking can influence your success, as success sounds like a random, exterior element. yet, that does no longer mean which you're doomed to undesirable success, no count how undesirable your circumstances could seem ideal now. success is composed of the arranged, or notwithstanding the asserting is going, and valuable thinking will provide help to coach for the time whilst issues replace for the greater valuable. focusing on the unfavorable basically impedes your movements and clouds your recommendations. Say you have been to, God forbid, succumb on your "undesirable success" and alter into completely overwhelmed via your debt and melancholy, and alter into paralyzed with concern? which could basically bring about a dull end and you may easily finally end up in a worse undertaking than you're in now. yet, in case you have been to settle on your undertaking as that's, prepare for any achievable circumstances and set some objectives for your self, which includes posting resumes on line, tightening your belt and saving some funds, and stay steadfast on your responsibilities as an worker, if an excellent replace happens on your existence, you would be waiting for it. in line with danger yet another job will open up for you. or in line with danger your organization could have a transformation of coronary heart and you would be secure on your place. in short, valuable thinking keeps you proactive. unfavorable thinking basically forces you to return screeching to a deadly standstill. i flow via an excellent sort of united statesand downs these days, yet an excellent sort of it became into my own doing. too lots concentration on my obstacles as an artist and not understanding the opportunities in my abilities. My string of "undesirable success" has pushed me to reevaluate myself as a individual and as a potential enterprise proprietor, shoving me into actively pursuing my objectives. Now, i'm no longer asserting that your undertaking became into your individual doing. From what you have reported, you're doing all your job the acceptable you may and this is the better-united stateswhich are calling the photos. yet, you nonetheless have some administration over your existence. And who's familiar with, what sounds like a curse now will become a blessing sometime. I wish you good fortune and advantages. :)

Answer 9

Stay with it. Just smile more. I have been positive all my life, but of late I am being crushed all the time. Your way seems less hurtful. Good luck

Answer 10

Borrow some books from the library on being positive and confident.