First of all, you are wearing my own bandana! Take it off, and your glasses, this looks like my own face!
Anwyay, you are going through a age crisis. You are thinking to do this, beause you are soundig frustrated and thinking 'life is too short, my body needs good wild passion' - but imagine after you do all this, you will want to go back, and you'll never have that lovely wife of yours since you say she's loyal and loving.
Think before you put your feet in the ****! You'll never manage to get out of it !
2007-02-23 23:44:30
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answered by Spark S 5
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Seems like you are only looking at this from your side. IF that is the case and you are not satisfied and want to sleep around with someone besides your wife, then yes, you should tell her what you said, you are not mad or angry, you just want to sleep around, she might be relieved and say.."hey, lets stay married, I will sleep around also" and this way you will have an open happy marriage...but if you divorce you will loose a person that loves you and is loyal to you, those things don't come by everyday.
2007-02-23 23:45:10
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answered by Ariana 4
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Although most people are probably going to start bashing you here, I think it's great that you are being honest with yourself and also with the fact that you have not cheated....yet. This is a very serious issue, and you need to address this. How long have you been married? Do you think she sort of knows that you have this desire? Could it be that you are having these desires / fantasies because you need more out of your married sex life? Is there one particular person you want to be with? You need to examine what is causing these feelings. I bet a lot of people dream of sleeping around; you are probably not alone.
Let me say, though, I don't think a divorce is going to be the best option right now. It sounds like you need to really talk about these feelings with a therapist and your wife. You could rush into a divorce, start sleeping around and then realize that you divorced the love of your life! Divorce is the point of no return.
I have NO IDEA as to how one might approach this subject matter with their wife, but that is what you need to do. You need to share your feelings with her, and maybe suggest that you would like to go to marriage counseling with her about this; show her that you want to work on this concern. Maybe there is an underlying cause that a therapist could help you identify.
I hope this helps. Like I said, you are going to get a lot of people bashing you here, but hopefully some of us will help you see things more clearly. Best wishes with whatever you do!
2007-02-23 23:54:13
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answered by thebee74 4
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Well if you want to sleep around you must not be happy in your marraige. If this is the case then maybe you should look at divorce as she has been a good wife to you. So why dis her this way. It would be better to let her go and you can go have a fling with every woman you want (that wants to let you anyway) By having these flings you are also putting her in a position for STD'S Either way cheating is cheating. Why ruin a marraige for ten minutes of fun.
2007-02-23 23:44:12
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answered by GRUMPY 7
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If you want to sleep around get a divorce, but think about it long and hard, the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence, it just looks that way! Apparently you aren't satisfied with what you have and want more. Once you start sleeping around, you will never be satisfied! You will be bed hopping all the time! With all the diseases out there, it is up to you!
2007-02-24 00:15:02
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answered by Gerry 7
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Joe.... Why did you marry you wife? Really ask yourself this. If you married her for her kindness, friendliness, her attractiveness, her devotion to you. Did you feel like you were soul mates? If not, you can be soul mates w/ her. The way to do it, is look deep w/ in yourself and accept who you are and that you are a good person. You have to let your wife into your heart. A lot of people, when they get married, think that it will be wonderful! w/ THIS thought in our minds about the other person being perfect, we get let down when something goes wrong or we discover something we do not like about that person. Good news is that not ONE person is perfect and if you decide to have an affair, you will realize that the one you will have an affair w/ will not be perfect either and you will probably realize how much you love you wife after you do this. If she were to find out about this, you may lose her. Then what? It's not worth it. Try to get the attraction back. Try to remember why you married her. Try to think about all the good times you've had. And most of all, really try to accept you for you!!!!!!! If you want to feel love again, then you need to show some love too!!!!
2007-02-24 00:27:05
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answered by truebeing3030 3
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u are lucky to have a relationship like u have, but chances are u won't know it till it's gone. if u want to cheat, u need to get a divorce first, why destroy someone else, and hurt them, this is all about your stuff, what is going on with u, it has nothing to do with her, so don't hurt her by cheating on her behind her back. what u are seeking is excitement, lust, the things that aren't really real, that don't last, but that my friend u will need to find out for yourself as u really seem like this is what u want out of life.
2007-02-23 23:48:09
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answered by jude 7
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If you want to sleep around, then YOU should've never gotten married. You are in it for the long haul. You took a vow. Take a cold shower and get a hobby. Better yet, go talk to your wife. She is supposed to be the first one you turn to for companionship, friendship, etc.
2007-02-23 23:44:53
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answered by Anonymous
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I agree with Nicky. She'll be hurt beyond words if you sleep with another woman while you are still married to her.
Divorce is never easy, but it's the best option if you are going to be intimate with other women.
Your wife is a good woman; she doesn't deserve the pain you will bring her if you cheat.
2007-02-23 23:45:53
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answered by Anonymous
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I need more details here.
Are you no longer attracted to her? Does she satisfy you? Did you marry young and not have a chance to sow your oats?
If it's yes to 1, you two need to see a counselor. If it's yes to 2, you two need to communicate more. If it's 3, you need to think about why you got married so young and if you're really willing to break up a solid relationship just to screw another woman or two.
2007-02-23 23:44:46
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answered by Aimee L 4
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