I have hurt one of my friends. She has decided not to speak to me. Her nature is such that if she decides something, she sticks to it for a long time. She has told me that if she has a breakup with someone, she does not like even seeing his face. She also told me that she is a bad girl and she does not wanna be a part of my life? What should I do so that she becomes same as she previoulsy was?
2007-02-23 23:29:17 · 14 answers · asked by Mark K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
SORRY FOR YOUR MISDEEDS AND ASSURE HER THAT YOU WILL NOT DO IN FUTURE.
2007-02-27 03:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how bad you hurt her, you have to acknowledge that it will take some time for her (like it with anyone else) to forgive.. Since she has said that she stays mad for a long time, then it will probably take her a longer time to forgive you than if you had hurt someone else.. You don't have to stop apologizing. Just call her up, explain that you're very sorry for doing what you did, and that you know that she is badly hurt, that if you could take it back, you definitely would, and that you hope she forgives you.. if you really are friends, then she will eventually.. if she doesnt, then she's not a real friend.. try sending her an apology letter
2007-02-23 23:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by hedZy ♀ The Dancing Banana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the 1st place, why do you need to hurt her if you do treasure this friendship? Maybe she is afraid of getting hurt by you again. You both meant a lot to each other? If yes, you must have hurt her very badly.
Let her cool down for a while and find the right time to talk to her again.
Remember do not put your pride too high if she is willing to start a conversation with you again. Tell her that you do want this friendship to last.
2007-02-24 00:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Miko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot MAKE her the way she was. The only thing that can make that happen is if SHE chooses to.
All you can do is apologize with all your heart and do what you can to rectify the problem. If she wants to be stubborn and unforgiving....than that is her bad.
You are gonna have to accept what she decides, and if it isn't what you want.....all you can really do is pray that she will realize how much you want things the way they were and become willing to forgive.
The only person we can control is ourselves...... I feel for you.... Cause I have an exboyfriend who refuses to even consider forgiveness.....and he says he is a Christian, too. Anyhow, all I can do is pray that God will show him the error of his ways....and someday things will be different.
Hope this helps!
2007-02-23 23:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by treefrog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the down side to it. Most friendships aren't restored once they cross the line into a relationship. That's why you hear people say they don't want a relationship; it might ruin the friendship.
Why can't you leave her alone? If she wants to forgive you she will. If she doesn't, she won't. If you've apologized let it be. If you didn't, then you should have.
2007-02-23 23:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by full figured 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, the more you act like novice the more she'd take you for granted, the best thing to do is to act like you just don't care anymore, treat her the way she's been treating you, just to get her attention, then if realisations comes up, tell her you didn't mean to treat her like that, you were only curios about getting her attention..
Hope this helps..
2007-02-23 23:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by codedfeelins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a beauful collection of flowers with a card saying: "Forgive me, as I forgave you..."
2007-02-23 23:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. You are only fueling her contempt. Let her come around if she wants.
2007-02-23 23:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer her food of her choice. All want food of personal choice. She will love you. If you suceed, tell me.
I always want food my personal choice.
2007-02-24 00:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grab her and tell her that you are sorry and say that pliz forgive me
2007-02-23 23:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Aron Kishore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most situations TIME will heal.....
2007-02-23 23:32:43 · answer #11 · answered by Israel-1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋