I kept my fiancee on tenterhooks regarding marriage commitment. she's 28 and i am 34...both a bit late for marriage. it's an arranged match. i think in her desperation to get married she got intimate with me .. kisses, cuddling and some groping. i've consented because i didn't want to betray after taking advantage of her. but i can't help feeling down now. i've lost respect for her and for myself too. please give me your perspective.
2007-02-23 23:01:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think she was just letting to know what you have coming...don't dis her....she was just trying to make you feel better....simple as that....geeech...you act like she went and did something horrible.
She was with you.....it's only normal to want to be close to someone who is going to be your husband or wife..I know when I
WAS around my husband I could NOT keep my hands or anything else off him....I was always trying to please him...
2007-02-23 23:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In your heritage marriages are arranged. Do not feel down or depressed because she made the first move, you are hers and likewise she is yours. I think what you may actually be feeling is scared. You are afraid that her appetite maybe taxing or too much for you.. That is quite understandable, but do not question her honor or yours by you feeling alittle weak in the knees.. It is okay, just simply ask her to slow down alittle. You want children too, correct, well, just keep that in mind. You will have a beautiful wife and a wonderful life if you would just calm down, stop being so judgemental. Trust your tradition and enjoy your wife. I wish that some of you alls customs would work in my world. I mean with you all, at least you have an idea of who you will wed, and just what kind of family she is from. I would trade places with you in a heartbeat on that alone.
2007-02-24 07:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dude? Are you going to marry her? Then where is the harm.
You both are admittedly a little late for marriage but it is not too late to be adult.
To continue to deny yourself with your fiance is a little nuts isn't it?
You should be glad to know that you can look forward to a life with some physical love.
Get over this and get on with the marriage.
I cannot begin to understand the ramifications of arranged marriage as I live in the US. Based on the numbers of questions here which relate to Indian marriages where they cannot passion for each other, It would seem like you are favored with a woman who is attracted to you.
Enjoy it and move forward.
2007-02-24 07:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say its an arranged marriage.
are you or were you happy?
well u both made the decisiion about being intimate
no need feeling down since you & her both agreed
2007-02-24 07:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lil' Billz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cant understand that arranged thing?? Is it compulsory??? Just tell her that you are not interested. If you can!
2007-02-24 07:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to live w/ your mistakes............
2007-02-24 07:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋