I've been married to a good-looking womanizer for more than twelve years and we have an eleven-year old daughter. My husband had several women in the past but now he seems to be getting more involved this time. He brought home this Chinese girl while my daughter and I were on a 5-week vacation to my parents' home.
This girl left the kitchen dirty. I also found broken wineglasses, empty bottles of wine, spices and herbs in the kitchen, a toothbrush in the bathroom, disinfectant, a negative result of a pregnancy test kit, and unused feminine napkins.
My husband sent her home the day before we arrived but they were too careless not to tidy the apartment. I also found three kissmarks on his chest.
I still love my husband. I want to keep him and save our marriage. I want to protect my daughter from the truth but he has drained me of all emotions. How can I keep going? How can I stop them in this forbidden relationship? How can I keep a man who doesn't know the word "change"? I am hurt..
2007-02-23 20:59:21 · 13 answers · asked by womanizer's wife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once a cheat always a cheat. You should love yourself and your daughter more to realize you deserve better than that.
-NmD!
2007-02-23 21:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You really must love this man very much. Either that, or you're afraid of ending up single and alone and with a daughter to take care of. Don't you think you're worth more than this? Your husband treats you like this because he knows for sure that he will still keep you - no matter what.
I guess only you can decide what is best for your daughter and yourself but one thing is for sure - there is no way you can run from the truth. It would be far better to accept it now than wait for the whole situation to blow up in your face.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 21:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even try to save something is not up to you to save. Yo must have pride as a human being and not lower yourself to a sumbag like your husband, just try to think that any man that cheats once will always do, even if he stops seeing this girl you say he will find more and you can't just tolerate that.
Divorce the *******, go to a nice long vacation with your daughter and get a lot of new clothes, that always help me..
toodles and good luck with everything
2007-02-23 21:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by liza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate being married... I am married for 3 years with 2 kids and hate it. During the marriage I started a very successful business and last year when we both filed for divorce I was ordered to pay $3,000.00 a month to my husband for 1 year and I got everything plus the kids. But the thought of his stupid @ss getting all my money every month made me just stop the divorce and work things out for the sake of the kids and business assets. I have since then doubled my net worth and have no idea how to remove myself from this situation, so hell no to marriage!
2016-03-28 21:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you want to keep your husband, Do you think you have him to keep? I don't. You say you love your husband. How can you love someone that totally disrespects you and his marriage vows? Your daughter will find out and she will either be hurt because daddy is disrespecting you or worse she will grow up thinking this behavior is ok. You say you are hurt. Well what hurts more? his cheating and leaving you lonely or you leaving his sorry *** and being lonely for a short time until you find someone that will treat you right.
2007-02-23 22:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanine G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are looking to be in a polygamist relationship, END IT!!! Your husband has disrespected YOU and YOUR DAUGHTER! Don't teach your daughter it is OK to be second best. Leave him and start over. If it is not possible, start college classes and improve yourself while keeping "him" (that sorry excuse for a man) in the back of your mind until YOU are ready to leave him HIGH and DRY!!!!
2007-02-23 21:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by bubblingbroo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. Dump him and get someone worthy of your love and loyality. I would never put up with a man bringing some ***** in my home or otherwise. He is just going to keep doing this and get bolder and bolder as time passes. You will be suffering for the rest of your life if you stay with him.
2007-02-23 21:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Negotiate boundaries. E.g., clean the house before you get back. Stay faithful and let you check up on him like a hawk for six consecutive months for every year.
Whatever it takes so that you're not miserable staying together for the sake of your daughter.
2007-02-23 21:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately i think they did not care if u found out, and unless he wants to make changes there isn't going to be any. u can't keep going in a relationship like this, it will destroy your self esteem, and u will soon not have any feelings for him. he would have to want to make the changes, and how insulting of the other woman to deliberately leave things of hers u would find, she is sending u a message that she is in the marriage, and she wants u to know it. sometimes we do have to leave a marriage, and get away from that person even if it hurts us.
2007-02-23 21:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him cos sounds to me that marriage aint worthsaving id have been out of there years ago
2007-02-24 01:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by arniesmum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋