I've been with my wife for three years and together for four. I have been the ultimate sponge for all her worries and jealousy and quandry as to what I am doing every second of the day. THEN, I cheated on her and messed u0p very badly. Dont ask why, I am aware no reason or excuse is good enough. All I am asking, for clarification, forget looks, forget income, forget all that. Would you stay with a guy after he cheated on you?
2007-02-23 20:17:57 · 25 answers · asked by B Rock 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd stay if he was a pnut
2007-02-23 23:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by thisguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband cheated on me...I would stay. I would try that ONE time to make it work. We would HAVE to seek counseling, and he would have to have no problem with doing so. If I could see that he made a mistake and TRULY regretted doing so, then I would try again. Especially if there were children involved. You are human and you will make mistakes. If she was already checking up on you and was a jealous person, she basically didn't trust you to begin with, which makes me wonder has there EVER been a reason for her not to trust you during the course of your relationship? Whatever the answer, you sure didn't help things by cheating despite her fears.
To answer your question, if my husband cheated on me ONE time, I would give the benefit of the doubt and try to make it work one more time. It would take a lot of healing, and you are gonna have to be patient. It isn't gonna just go away in a few months. She will probably forgive you, but don't expect her to forget. THAT is what you will have to deal with from now on. Can you handle that? She will be checking up on you even more so than before. You will have to be understanding if she decides to stay and work things out and don't give her ANY thing to find and run with...I wish you the best of luck and I hope this answer helps...Just be honest with her and be really sorry for what you've done, meaning DON'T DO IT AGAIN if this is the woman you plan to love for life.
2007-02-23 20:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by krikit96 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No! I dont see myself being with a man that cheated on me. Cheating is considered disrespect, betrayal and lack of love. It brings other problems in to consideration and one day it will ruin both of your lives....well i say relationship.....eventually she will not put up with it because all women know once you cheater, you most likely going to cheat again. There is always an exception to everything but women tend to think that way. Sorry but there is nothing you can really do what already have been done.
2007-02-23 20:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women arent jealos unless they have a reason. You probably cheated before and thats why. Do you know how bad it hurts someone to cheat on them? You are a jerk and I hope she kicks you to the curb. Better hope she is ugly cause if not you are screwed. someone is going to steal her.Y would you mess up your relationship for a whore? only whores sleep with married people.I wouldnt ever stay with a cheater. Jerk
2007-02-23 21:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by mandy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends how you cheated, and evan if that person stays with you there is always going to be doubt. B/c you broke that trust. I cheated on my bf and he stayed with me but all i did was kiss someone not much but it doesnt take much to break someones trust. It is really hard to regain that trust back. So yeah I do believe in second chances but they will have to do alot of explaining and kissing A$$!! Plus it would be awhile before i trusted them again! I hope that helps!!
2007-02-23 20:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by Hbrown3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the strength and the foundation of the relationship..
I've seen strong woman who has collapsed when they found that their husbands have cheated and had left them since..
While there are others.... who still stuck by their husbands even though they had found out that their husbands have mistresses and have built another family as well..
My answer as of now will be now, I will never forgive and I will most probably leave.. But when the situation happens.. it may be otherwise... As I really love my husband for now.
2007-02-23 20:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by DriftGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly.. yes.. I'm so sick of ultra feminist's and their rants about once a cheater always a cheater. I tell you I love my husband and he has never cheated on me but if he did I would totally forgive him. It's just sex.. JUST SEX. Any woman who would not doesn't know the true meaning of love nor does she take her wedding vows seriously.. For better or worse until death do us part. I am not some religous weirdo nor am I a Doormat as some women have suggested in fact if anything I make the decisions in our family and he asks me for money when he wants something etc. etc. Husbands are just human and humans make mistakes. Get over it as nobody is perfect and if she doesn't forgive you then you deserve better
2007-02-23 21:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by hatescreenames 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if i am jealous and need to know where you are every minute, that doesn't really help, tell her if you're gonna cheat nothing can stop you, you're gonna cheat. maybe you don't even know or think it at the time. but you did do it. i am a girl who cheated on her man, and i didn't know why, but when i told him, he didn't leave me, but eventually i left. i guess i just wanted to give him a reason to leave me cause it was to hard for me to leave at the time, but he didn't care he said he would still be with me. cheating to me means something is missing in your life you are not fully fulfilled somehow (unhappy). we're friends now because of the kids, they come first always.
2007-02-23 20:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this but she will probably throw you out. And it may be a good thing because she already has this tendancy to get jealous and stuff. With what's happened she'll probably be worse! But she decides to keep you and you really love her and want to be with her it will take a lot of work from now on. Things have changed. It won't be as rosy as before.
2007-02-23 20:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one out of five would stay with the cheating guy. That's just an estimate to say that most women would not tolerate it. I know i wouldnt. I'm too good to be with a guy who cheats.
2007-02-23 20:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did, some years ago. I would never make that mistake again. All that happened after all the tears and apologies, was that he continued to cheat, and break my heart.
2007-02-23 20:21:30 · answer #11 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋