I have been friends with my supposedly "bestmate" for 7years now, we've lived together, spoken nearly everyday, My problem is that I feel deep down in my heart I can't trust her, she has major issues with her ex and he's still much very in the picture after cheating on her 13 times, he lives with his parents and bludges off them, he doesnt help with his son and I'm constantly being told about this - it's been 5years of hearing the same crap on a different day - I feel lied to when I ask her what she has been doing, she buys this pig alcohol, gives him money and then phones me up complaining negatively about him and their relationship which is destructive. I hang in this friendship because I have no other friends and I find it hard making friends to keep or who are onn my wave length. Why can't I let the friends ship go when I really deep in my heart know she isn't right for me? She is competitive with me, whereas I am humble, positive and longing for that friend who is on my length.
2007-02-23 20:16:43 · 5 answers · asked by Natasha23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been in that exact situation. I had been friends with this girl since high school but it was always the same things with her. The cheating boyfriend and the constant whining about him and everything else. Eventually I decided I had to move on because the friendship had become way to hard to deal with. That was three years ago and i haven't looked back since.
Good Luck
2007-02-23 20:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you start up feeling like the friendship is one sided or that's hurting you in any form of way. Friendship is meant to be an excellent journey, no longer a unfavorable one. If a friendship takes a turn for the unfavorable then something is incorrect. Any negativty on your existence isn't nicely well worth the attempt. that's basically too ordinary to get negativity too many different places on your existence, no longer in friendships.
2016-10-01 21:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, keep her. If you do not feel that you can trust her, dump her. Please do not marry this girl since you feel that she lies to you. Tell her, stop anything with your ex or I will leave you. If she loves you, she will stop, if not then Dump her. She is not worth your time.
2007-02-23 20:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by lorno5378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! you are the golden retriever of friends, loyal to the end!! email me ppeas@hotmail.com , i can be your buddy and hopefully help u accept this relationship is wrong
2007-02-23 20:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her straight and simple, if you want to still be with this looser that's your choice all I'm asking you is that to please stop coming to me when he treats you bad i just don't want to hear it anymore, and when she does try to call you to complain,just cut her off and say sorry i don't want to hear it, i did it with my friend and she stopped coming to me with her boy problems,
2007-02-23 20:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋