okay me and my fiance have been sexually active for about 2 years now, and everytime we do it i feel tense and my body hurts. like i cant relax. i do enjoy it but just not on the same level as him. he wants to try new things but im afraid its gonna hurt...and it often does. what can i do to relax and enjoy it like him?
2007-02-23 20:14:10 · 9 answers · asked by Jennie 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
yes i knew these answers would come up. but i dont drink nor do i smoke. these replies sound like something a highschool kid would say..i need real answers.
2007-02-23 20:22:35 · update #1
Well, this may be more info than you wanted, but I had been married (and having painful sex) for a couple of years, when I finally went to a doctor. I had a part of my hymen that had not completely broken off. It didn't always hurt, just sometimes. I had it surgically taken care of (very easy surgery) and everything was fine afterward. You may want to check with a doctor and make sure nothing is physically wrong.
You may think a doctor would notice something like that with a regular exam, but no one ever said anything until I complained. I was very young and the first doctor told me that I needed to relax; that sex was how we had our children (duh, I wasn't that young). The second doctor examined me and told me right away what was wrong with me.
You may not being enjoying sex because of a discomfort if not outright pain.
It is always best first to check out a physical cause before you start thinking that something is emotionally or mentally wrong with you.
Good luck to you; I know I went through hell before finding out what was wrong.
2007-02-23 20:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should try lots of foreplay, I mean lots, have a very verbal understanding that you are going to tell him when something does not feel good and he will stop. sex is very reliant on communication between partners.......the more you communicate the better you will know what each other likes. Have him start by giving you a long sensual massage to relax you.... and take it slow. shouldnt hurt, and until you get the basics right and feel comfortable, you shouldnt introduce any thing new to your sex life.......hope I helped.
2007-02-24 05:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by gotcha25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally think that exploring your sex drive with a partner is often painful because he doesn't know that he is hurting you. you need to talk to your partner during sex let him know what is feeling good and what is not. Learning each others body is important so from hair pulling to positions you need to let him know how to please you.
2007-02-24 04:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not saying that you should try it with another man but it seems that he's so rough on you.
2007-02-24 04:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by art_wur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get jacked on pain killers and whiskey. Youll won't care what he is doing and you wont feel a thing. Just don't forget the lube.
2007-02-24 04:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by matty m 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you need more foreplay so you have more time to get in to it.
2007-02-24 04:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a couple drinks but dont get drunk might losen you up a bit
2007-02-24 04:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by chronus79 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Smoke some Pot
2007-02-24 04:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That is because you are stupid
2007-02-24 11:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Nada K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋