My bestest friend ever in the wolrd, devin, has told me that he's confused about himself. as so am i. [please no religious crap]. we haven't talked much in a few years. the times we have have been kind of awkawrd. i miss him a lot, and i care about him a lot, but... i want to help him. but it seems he wont let me, and i want to tell him that i love him more than just a best friend. it's hard. becuase he knows that i'm "confused" and... i've been crushing on him for a few years now.... i know he sitll cares, but i hate the fact that we rarely see each other. what should i do?
2007-02-23 20:10:25 · 6 answers · asked by Daniel R 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am not gay, and witnessing gay activities sicken me, but I am a reaonable and understanding person. You shouldn't push him at all, because the feelings he has may not be truly homosexual, he may just be responding to his best friends interests unconciously. Where you're looking for love, he may be struggling with the physical aspects of it instead. I know many gay people who aren't true gay, they just like man on man sex (if that makes any sense). more physical than emotional I guess Im saying. Let him feel it out, and you just be there to help. Being good friends may be all you are, he may truly be gay and not love you like that. Be there for him, but try not to influence him.
2007-02-23 20:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
listen to his need right now. he wants to figure out his own feelings before he can decide if he needs help. let him be for the time, it hurts to let someone go like this, but then he deserves to have that quiet time by himself to mull over what is going on, and once he has some concrete answers can he come back to you with whatever he wants to share with you. accept whatever decision he makes - being with you or not - you need to move on yourself. do not let yourself down by thinking too much about - it is difficult, but worrying only makes it worse. give him the time he needs. meanwhile, figure out if he's the one for you, or would someone else deserve the love you have to give. all the best.
2007-02-23 20:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend feel the same? If so pursue it slowly.
If not don't try
(Trust me have the scars to show for this! Its never worth it)
2007-02-23 21:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by nevergrowup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express yourself. what is the worst that could happen? If he's mature enough, he can handle the truth. good luck
2007-02-23 21:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by jwmdangerdogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My birthday is this Saturday. I hope to have a great weekend. Not sure what I'll be doing. I sure wish I could be with someone this weekend. It would be nice to have someone to cuddle with.
2007-02-23 20:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by white wolf 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You don't need more negative things in your life. Where you brought up in this style of life? Why don't you think who you would be hurting and what you would be losing in the long run.
Your straight friends and family probably would all go Yuck and is that really worth some dude?
2007-02-23 20:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋