Our divorce was just final about a month ago, and from Hell things turned out to change to heaven. We have been talking and respecting each other like never before. I told her that I still love her with all my heart and she said that she also misses me sometimes and if she could trust me we maybe had a chance to get back together which would be also very beneficial to our son who is only two and who loves both of us.
The reason why we got divorced was due to lots of conflicts and me trying to change the way she was. I also had problems with porn and chatted with old girlfriends from far away online (just being friends), which she didnt like a bit and I now that see all the mistakes that ive done in the past and after realizing that i lost the most important thing in my life which is my family, i changed.. and i want to show her that, but she is afraid that this is just another promisse. The thing is that I finally learned my lesson, but how can I show her that?
2007-02-23 19:37:33 · 3 answers · asked by reeftanksforall.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Proving yourself time after time till she feels right about trusting you again.... and keep everything honest and open...and if you continue a relationship with her there are going to be plenty of opportunity to prove yourself.. good luck
2007-02-23 22:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were you thinking! See what happens when you lie to your wife...there are consequences! She can't trust you and I do not blame her. "You made a promise to her before God that you would forsake all others". Buy her a beautiful card and write the marriage vows that you can recall and admit what you did was wrong and from now on you are going to remind yourself of those vows you took before God and made to her. Change the number and if the ex ever contacts you again, you are to INCLUDE your wife and both tell her, or text her not to ever bother your marriage again. Tell your wife she can check your phone logs anytime she wants. That will show her that you have nothing to hide from her until you can regain her trust again. Buy her a bouquet of roses for with the card. Be attentive to your wife.
2016-05-24 05:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being honest and steady.
Continue to show her your regret and interest in starting over.
But whatever happens, take it slowly and softly. She is working to self-protect right now and that is a hard thing to work past. She will not alow herslef to be vunerable to you for a very long time, if ever. But if you show her that you are, and that you are willing to do things that you would nothave before, this will demonstrate what you are saying.
Actions are louder than words, and her fear is of your words. So, you can only make her believe by your actions.
2007-02-23 23:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋