To bash gays theysee on TV or in public to try to make other people believe they are not gay, my roomate is gay,I know, but he will do this and try to get a reaction out of me, but I don't buy into it, I think maybe he's stereotyping me as being a homophobe becuase Im a young White suburban male or something,
Its's really annoying, I have no problem with gays and this guy is my friend, but being in the closet seems to cause a lot of problems,,,always sneaking around and living a double life,,,anyone agree
2007-02-23 19:13:39 · 11 answers · asked by No Bs 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes.
2007-02-23 19:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by lorno5378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The closet is a sad reality for the gay person. The fact of the matter is that your roommate is your friend. He is not ready to face his truth, so he is in his own hell. All that you can do is be supportive and wait it out. It could also be his misguided attempt at flirting with you; perhaps you are the center of his lust? Just realize that nothing changes- youre straight hes gay- life goes on...
2007-02-23 21:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by jwmdangerdogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! I would think that closet gays would try to conceal their orientation to you, but would not say how nasty or wrong they are. Most wouldn't say anything at all, he might ask you occasionally what you think of gays, or make a comment (neutral comment) about something that might get a reaction out of you. Just tell him (like you don't know that he is) that you have no problem with homosexual people.
2007-02-24 05:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident it rather is and that i understand with the aid of adventure via fact i've got had a roommate only like this. the topic is, are you able to rather blame them? i'm advantageous he would not carry it against you and you're probable an extremely solid guy, yet it rather is a substantial step (particularly for a male) to "come out of the closet". that is no longer as customary in society as a woman, inspite of what any feminist might inform you. i might advise hinting to him which you have an thought, yet no longer call him out on it. while he's able to be open approximately it, don't be taken aback which you are the 1st individual he talks to approximately it. every physique can say that they don't have a subject with gays, however the terror which you will handle him in yet in a various way probable circles in his concepts.
2016-11-25 20:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal behavior for a "closet gay". It sounds like you are a good friend and maybe just need to stick it out a little longer for two reasons, one he may just be checking to see how you feel about homosexuals before he comes out, and two he may not like or want the feelings he has and he is trying to fight them or afraid to reveal them. Just keep being the good friend that you are and sooner or latter he will change his behavior or come out. Good Luck!
2007-02-23 19:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by LesHug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a closet sounds like someone who is in the dark. The problem with this situation, and many others, is that even coming out of the closet doesn't necessarily lead directly to the light.
It isn't until we realize who we really are: sinners against our heavenly Father, and ask for His forgiveness in His precious Son; Jesus Christ, that we come to the light and who we were created to be...until then we are captives in a closet or out, in a bar, in anger, in rebellion, in fear, in sadness, in unforgiveness, in pride, in self, in denial...until we come to the cross.
...Behold a new creation, all things old pass away...
Sista C
P.S. You know how you get a letter from a loved one and you read it over & over.....well our heavenly Father wrote us a letter (the Holy Bible) be blessed and be a hearer and a doer of His Word.
2007-02-23 19:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by sista c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there still in the closet they will. When they come out that is usually a sign they have acknowledged and accepted who they are.
2007-02-23 19:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by ENCHANTRESS ROSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe tell him or remind him that you know he is gay, and this is not your problem. It's his. Tell him to get off his ###, and get out of of the closet, and on with his life. Maybe he'll get over this, and straighten out his act...Jim
2007-02-24 05:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens sometimes. Its sad. It usually those who have an extreme fear of people finding out so they join in their buddies homo bashing to look like one of the guys. Such sad sad people.
2007-02-24 05:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by twilight_moon1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-02-23 21:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kedar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋