We have a good sx life so no smart comments please.
2007-02-23 19:12:00 · 17 answers · asked by marincaligirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because it is forbidden.He can do things he might not could in person. Start doing sumthing like that yourself and let him catch you.
2007-02-23 19:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by BED 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think too many times, whenever a person feels neglected, or is cheated on.. they assume it has something to do with them. You yourself are wondering why your husband is cheating on you (yes dear, "cybering" is cheating) since you are "not fat or ugly".
That's the mistake that men/women make all too often when trying to figure out why their partner is doing things like that. But in all reality, whatever he is doing, has absolutely nothing to do with you, or how you look, or even how often you two sleep together.
The problem is all about him. He is choosing to do that, and it's something that you two need to have some serious talks about.. now. If you try to rationalize it, by assuming that you are even a remote factor in his wrongdoings, then it will be that much easier for him to put the blame on you. Don't let yourself get into a situation like that. He is a grown man, and he is the one who chose to act that way, and do those things.
I think you need to see it for what it is.. cheating, and have some very serious talks about it, and about why he thinks he needs to do it. Put a stop to it, now. Even if it means getting rid of the computer, do it. Having the internet is definately not worth losing your marriage over. So, if he won't stop it on his own.. make it so that he has zero acces to the women he's been doing that with.
Also, if I were you.. keep a close eye on him. Even if he hasn't done anything physically (yet) I would think it's a safe assumption that he can't be trusted, at all. So, just keep a close watch on him, and what he's doing. Cause, personally... I think that the guys who get into all that crap online, are the same ones who will eventually cheat on you (with a real person) and break your heart.
I'm not saying that people can't change, cause they can.. but make sure he earns your trust. While I think that getting rid of internet will put a fast stop to the cybering issue.. it won't have anything to do with the underlying issue, that is causing him to act that way in the first place.
So, just talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel. Don't make into a "fight" about accusations or anything of the sort, since that will only make him defensive, and more likely to continue with his behavior. Just calmly discuss it, and how it affects you, as well as any concerns you may have. Things can work out, and he can overcome that.. but it definately takes both of you to make it work.
2007-02-24 01:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating has nothing to do with the quality of marital sex the cheater is experiencing.
Your husband is cheating on you because, well, he is a cheater. Why is not the important question. The important question is how much longer are you going to tolerate being treated that way.
2007-02-23 19:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with you. It is his issue. He probably enjoys the pursuit of a conquest. Men are open to doing most things they don't think they will get caught doing. Have you talked with him about it? How do you feel about joining him online? Can you do this as a couple?
2007-02-23 19:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bill B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical looks aren't everything when it comes to sex. Sex is mainly at its peak when the couple are communicating well. Communication is what he is replacing, but you'd know that if you would talk, (not *****) to him. Tell him some erotic things about yourself. Tell him what makes your panties melt. Or are you to shy to talk to him about it. There are cyber chicks who have no problem doing it, what makes why a wife can't even more confusing.
2007-02-24 02:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking us why? You should be asking your husband. There is a reason. You might be surprised in his answer if you both really talk about it and get everything out in the open. Talk to him.
2007-02-23 19:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But can you handle yourself in the sex department? Stop your hubby for doing this. It is still being unfaithful. Do something to spice up your sex life. Start communicating and get this handled.
2007-02-23 19:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a dog man looking for a dog woman to help him bury his bone
2007-02-23 19:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably considers it harmless entertainment much like flirty answers on here. If that's the case, probably no harm if that's as far as it goes.
2007-02-23 19:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by DixeVil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have tried it out of curiosity--and then became hooked. It is addicting--just like anything else.
2007-02-23 19:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋