Okay, so he's been my best friend...well, one of my best friends for about three years. We've always liked each other. But he has always had a problem with video games. He has something called "Asperger's Syndrome". Its a really mild form of autism. But anyways, I've always come over to his house almost every day after school (like a lot of best friends do), but lately he's been acting really weird. Like a jerk, kind of. I'll try to come over, and he'll blatently say "No. Why do you want to come over anyways? You know I'm just going to play video games the entire time. Nothing is going to change that." When he says that, I get sad and angry. He thinks that his stupid little video games are more important than people. But that's not all. If I'm on the computer or watching TV or saw something neat or cool somewhere and I want to show it to him, he'll just say "I don't care. Thats stupid. Would you just stop bugging me?" And then he goes back to his games. What should I do? I don't know.
2007-02-23 17:37:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just tell him that u become angry when he behave with u like that, sometimes we dont notice that we r behaving rude with the people that we love ,so u have 2 tell him 2 overcome this problem ,maybe he didnt notice that ,sometimes when we owe something we dont give it suitable attention but when we lose it ,we begin 2 find our mistakes that we have done 4 its right ,but it becomes 2 late, so just tell him in order not 2 lose him as if u lost him both of u will feel guilty (u bec. u didnt tell him) &(ur friend as he didnt notice ur feelings). remember that friendship isnt a word it is the honesty between u & ur friend .
so u have 2 be honest with yourself & ur friend.
2007-02-23 18:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone with Asperger's Syndrome likes to have a focus on something they can put into some kind of order. Video games do that. You play them right and it rewards you with orderliness.
Also people with this syndrome do not experience human emotions as someone without it. They do not read your responses the same way you do. There is nothing you can do about it but read what really happens to someone who has this syndrome.
If you are in a friendship that is not rewarding you in some way and is hurting your feelings a lot it may be time for you to find a new friend you can share things with.
Look up the article I referenced below, print it out, and talk to a parent or school counselor about it.
Asking why he feels this way won't help you. He probably doesn't know. Talk to your parents or school counselor on how to talk to him if you want to. Be sure to show them the article I referenced first.
2007-02-23 17:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Seems like he's not going to understand no matter what. I mean, it's been three years and maybe it's time to move on. Dude, give him a kiss goodbye and just let him be alone. I know how hard this can be. Trust me. I've had a lot of friends who start acting weird and I hate waiting for the right time, so I leave. I'm not the type whom waits and begs. Friends are needed, but it seems like this guy will major onto video games. Just tell him, "See ya" and don't talk to him in a while. Then I'm sure he'll give you a call. Hang out again. If things are not improving, tell him to his face that "Bye bye amigo!"
2007-02-23 17:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is ask him about why he is acting this way. Tell him that you want to come over because you enjoy his company and that you don't mind that he plays video games all the time because it is part of his disorder. Make sure that he knows that you understand that he has this disorder but is not an excuse to have an attitude or feel bad about himself because all you want to do is be his friend. My mom works with special needs children and most of the kids with Asburger's use their disorder as an excuse to have an attitude and they mostly feel bad for themselves all of the time. Tell him that if he needs his space that you will give it to him but that you care about him and you don't want him to get hurt. Good luck and I hope that helps!
2007-02-23 17:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by *Dancer 4 ever* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? does he talk to people? or anyone? you know mingle and stuff? well if he doesnt well maybe thats his problem.. since he doesnt meet other people or talk.. he gets so attached to his video games that its like its only best friend.. he just needs a little companionship.. show him you realy wanna help, and maybe try to bond with him do what he likes to do.. and try to ask him to do something that you like to do too..
or there's something happening in his personal life.. that he doesnt wnat to talk about.. you can tryto slip in the question but if he doesnt want to talk about it.. do not insist, insisting is just a way of pressuring him and ticking him off.. so just let him know that you'll be there for him always coz your his BESTFRIEND..
be kinda like "his light at the end of that video gamed tunnel.." hehe GOD BLESS! and always pray
2007-02-23 21:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by moose_uncanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to his parents about this? I haven't heard enough about autistic children, but I'm thinking his folks may know a little bit more about what is happening with him. I commend you for being this young man's best friend. I sincerely hope you can continue to do so. In the meantime, as I have said, talk to his parents first.
2007-02-23 17:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, get yourself a girlfriend, they're a lot more fun to spend time with, and just hang with your buddy at school until he comes out of his shell a little and then you guys can go hang out at places besides his house.
2007-02-23 17:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Zeppboy67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find yourself another friend that has the same interest as you do. Your present friend really doesn't want to be bothered because he is his own little world when he plays his games.
2007-02-23 17:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him be
maybe soon he will find out that you are more inportant than video games and when you want to show him something that you thought was neat or cool dont it will just make him upset obviously
2007-02-23 17:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋