I had a horrible high school experience. I feel like it changed me in so many ways and made me lose a lot of self -esteem. I know I should move on, but I'm 27 and my 10 yr. reunion is this year. I will not be attending because I still cringe when I think about h.s. What are some of your bad experiences? Maybe I will feel more normal. My husband talks of his wonderful h.s. all the time, it makes me want to vomit.
2007-02-23 17:34:11 · 22 answers · asked by SweetGin 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
o.k. here's a VERY short version. I was basically non-existant no matter how hard I tried. It made me feel like I was not worthy to be alive. Looking back, I think I had severe depression. It's not that I have dwelled on this all this time, but my reunion is coming up and I guess it opened some old wounds.
2007-02-23 17:57:22 · update #1
I know exactly what you mean. I became very quiet, inward-directed and isolated because most of the kids were not exactly nice to me and the only way people would leave me alone is if they didn't know I existed. It's been hard to leave that mentality after high school; It made me very suspicious of other people's intentions towards me and I have trouble dealing with people I don't know because I can't find it in myself to trust them. I don't think it ruined my life, I've got a long way to go and things are gradually getting better, but it certainly did change me.
2007-02-23 17:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ape Ape Man 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm looking back from 56 years old, so I might have a little different perspective. I didn't like high school. I skipped out as often as I could, which in my senior year came to be almost every day. I got my diploma, but I refused to go to the commencement ceremonies. I didn't attend commencement when I graduated from college either, but that's another story. No, high school didn't ruin my life, but it didn't do me a lot of good either. The best I can say about it is that I had sex for the first time while I was in high school.
2007-02-23 17:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by marcosarroyos2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
School really bites for some people.. I wouldn’t EVEN attend my reunions because of what I seen.. YES it can change you. I know people that were afraid every day of their lives when they were in school. Their school days even affected summer vacations and holidays. ALL because they knew they had to go back to school.
Look at these school shootings… Do you ever hear, “This person was popular” or “This person was a model student and in football”… NO… You always hear, “This person was picked on or made fun of.” For a FACT I’ve seen it first hand. People in schools can be made fun or beaten up only so much before they break. I mean, MENTALLY and PHYSICALLY BREAK to the point of insanity. Then the world thinks, “what was wrong with them” or the whole school says, “how could this have happened.”
Personally if you SEE anyone being harassed, beaten up, picked on constantly you need to take action and inform the authorities. Thank GOD they have police officers in schools today. At least children can tell the officer without fear of retribution…
2007-02-23 17:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it ruined my life because I refuse to let it, but I hated High School. I had moved away before junior high and just came back the first year of High School. It was a small town school and everybody was snobbish or trashy. I was overweight and very shy and quiet. I just kind of crept thru silently with no friends. I have not gone to any of the reunions because I did not like those people then, so what makes me think I would like them now? My life is successful and happy. I have been married to the same man for 35 years and we have a great, intelligent, independent, successful daughter and lots of friends. So I know it was not me, but was their loss. Move on, they don't deserve a thought.
2007-02-23 17:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by nesmith52 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I graduated from high school last year, and there were times when things were good and I felt fine but most of the time I hated it. There are always going to be people who ruin high school for you. Most of the girls were so shallow and fake. My friends were too. I never fit in because I'm not the type to discuss boys and makeup blah blah blah. All my real friends went to another high school because the city you live in determines which high school you go to. All my friends from junior high went to the same school and I went to another school. I made friends but they just weren't the same as my old friends. I never knew that some girls can be so manipulative! They would be nice to you in your face and the next thing you know she's talking about you behind your back. but ANYWAY high school sucked for me and I know how you feel. You should go to your reunion anyway and see how everybody has changed. It might be interesting!
2007-02-23 17:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by falala 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the "best" of both worlds actually in high school.
I started out my freshman year in a sort of gothic phase or whatever, and got made fun of alot and bullied around a bit, yknow, gym classes werent much fun etc etc.
Then two years or so later, I realized how stupid and shallow the whole "gothic" deal was, and I realized that if I was being treated a certain way, it was because I was unconciously wanting that treatment. So I made a conscious effort to stop judging others and treating everyone else the way I wanted to be treated. And it worked. In senior year I was one of the most popular guys in the school. So no, it didnt ruin my life and it taught me alot.
Thats basically my high school story. Whats yours?
2007-02-23 17:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jesus W. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your not going to accomplish anything by dwelling on how bad it sucked for you, just forget about everything and give everyone a second chance at your reunion. Its better to have friends than enemies.
2007-02-23 17:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Teelo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The first year of h.s. was horrible for me! But in the second year it got better for me!...and then I left the country, and that was horrible!
2007-02-23 17:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by -♦One-♦-Love♦- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only bad experiece......is that I couldnt relate to any of my classmates, because they were all such big partiers, and alcholics, did drugs....so if you didnt drink or do drugs you werent cool, but I'm okay with that now, because ill look damn good at my reunion and they most likely wont look too great ^_^
2007-02-23 17:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by Rocker Chick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not really. I just learned to smile and have thick skin towards my enemies. I would rather call HS more of a baby care center for teenagers. Only the finals years was worth every penny.
2007-02-23 17:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by Harry 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋