Honest Answers From All Married Couples....?

Question

Who is actually happy in their marriage? People seem to be so miserible with their spouse these days, and I'm just wondering how many exactly. Give details if you like.
ex- if you could leave would you? are you making it work between the 2 of you? are you just happy in general??

PS- I am not married, but soon will be
Thanks in advance :)

Answer 1

i am more happy then i ever thought i could ever be we have been married for 11 years have 2 kids bills and work but we enjoy it all and i would never want anything or anyone else i truly married my best friend we talk about everything from world events to movie star gossip i say now and then my husband is still the best date to go out on and not because he is the flowers and candle light rent a hot air balloon kind of guy oh no that's the stuff for movies he is the puts my foot on his knee and ties my shoe for me kind of guy, remembers i like a fork with my ice cream so all ways make sure it comes with one kind of guy runs out to my car and gets my book in the pouring rain because i was on the last chapter and really want to finish it hold my hand and Kissie's me in public and not just a peek a real kiss not a hey get a room kind but a real kiss kind of guy hits me on the behind and tells me i am hot even in just sweats and a t-shirt kind of guy asks about my friend and their kids my soaps and really listens and asks questions kind of guy he has sat at the end of our kids bed with me waiting for a fever to break slept on the cold hard floor of a hospital room after we had a baby because i didn't want him to leave and they would not get him a chair or let him use the other bed kind of guy so is he candy and love notes no but he is everything that matters so i am so happy and could not want for anything so if you remember to look for the things that count and remember romance comes in all forms not just the stuff we see on T.V or movies then you will be happy

Answer 2

first of all, its not always bad when you think of yourself. And what would you call a devoted and loving mother/nurse that isn't happy in their marriage. Sometimes situations change or people make bad decisions, thats all!!!!!!
Marriage is beyond selfishness. For example, if one spouse is in debt because of school but doesnt seem to work it off well enough to contribute to the household in a 50/50 marriage (because of lack of motivation), yes that is selfishness on his/her part, but it could be other things. It could mean that he/she is unsure of what career path he/she wants and to just jump at one means risking personal happiness. But on the other hand, when you're a "unit," you can't simply think of yourself.
Its hard, and yes sometimes it can be worked through, sometimes it can't. Situations and people change and marriage takes 2 people putting in/giving up equal components.
And for people who think about getting a divorce, if you just can't make it work after trying all the resources, then fine. To err is human! Who is anyone to say that mistakes can't be made and everything can be perfect in marriage. We don't live in the day and age that says "you made your bed so lie in it!" It may not be considered traditional or moral for some, but its better to break that in some cases that to be miserable for the rest of your life.

Answer 3

Yes, I am very happy in my marriage. That being said, it's not always easy and or enjoyable. It's something you have to work at and pay attention to. But, at the end of the day, I do NOT regret getting married.
People nowadays have no commitment towards each other and their communication is not much better. If people go into marriage thinking about all they will get instead of all they will give it won't work.

Answer 4

I am but sometimes i wonder if he is? !! I am who i am, i except were i am and who i am with, i am happy the way it is! It could change one day because you never know! No one can make another happy, happiness comes from your own self! You make your self happy, you can't let someone else determine your happiness ! And your not responsible to make someone else happy either ! No i wouldn't leave , i have no reason to leave him , only if he gave me reason to leave !! Of course you make it work if you want to stay with that person, no one is perfect and no one gets along well all the time, but you still love them if you love them ! I'm not miserable in my marriiage If i was I would have to do something about it !!!

Answer 5

was married 27 yrs when he left. It was fine until he was not only child then the rot started. However I know couples that were married 50+ years and still couldn't wait to see each other in the morning to talk about all the things they wanted to. Think that it depends on the two involved and also if the woman trains him from the first. ie. don't mother them or give in constantly to whatever they want at the beginning.

Answer 6

It really boils down to communication and not trying to change who someone is. I think that the biggest mistake that people make is they think that they can change who peolpe really are over time and that is not true. i am not married yet but i am engaged and i have been living with my fiance for 3 years. I really think that the best way to find out who someone really is before you are going to marry them is to live with them on a daily basis. We have been through so many ups and downs and yet I still love him. We have both learned good and bad things about each other...but that is the key. So many times in a relationship we find ourselves blaming our better halfs for things that go wrong in realtionships and the key is to also look into ourselves and figure out what we can do better also to make it work. My parents have been together for 20 some years and my mom still to this day will always blame every and anything that goes wrong on my father. She never looks inside to say hey im not perfect either what can i do better. One day my father is just going to up and leave her. He hasnt been a perfect husband but she also hasnt been a perfect wife. So to sum up you can be happily married but marriage takes work. It takes arguments and crying and soul searching to keep it going but at the end of the day when your man is snuggled up close to you and you both fall asleep together its really worth it!!! Good luck...and never be to proud to admit when your wrong!

Answer 7

I have been married 35 years and we are still very much in love. Don't ask me why cause I don't know. I think its because we were both committed to the marriage and never even thought of ending it. When I married, it was for better or worse. I accept my husband with all his faults and mistakes. I don't think there is anything he could do to make me not love him. If he murdered someone, I would stand by him. Oh course that is easy for me to say, because he has never been violent or abusive, so I don't know what I would do in those circumstances. And you have to be able to laugh. If you cannot laugh together, I don't think you can make it. Because life will throw you some curve balls and you have to learn to laugh at them. We laugh a lot. Good luck in your marriage and remember you have to work at it to make it good.

Answer 8

I got lucky on this one. I have been married for 13 years now and I couldn't be happier. I think once you learn that a relationship is both of you giving 100% of yourselves it gets better. I think people aren't happy because they are selfish and tend to lean toward what they want instead of their partner. I have GREAT wife and good life. I have never been married before and this one is great. So I would say yes I am actually happy to be married.

Answer 9

I've been married about 17 years , it has it's UPS and Downs.
Through it all the good times out weigh the bad. It's the little bad things that most couples allow to destroy their marriages.
My children are the glue that bonds us together ,understanding that separation would destroy more than two lives.(literally)
I believe that in the long run it will be well worth it.
On a scale from one to ten, "am I happy" ? (7) "Would I leave if I could"? (4) {one being no, ten being yes}

Answer 10

It is not hard to be happy in your marriage. All you have to do is think of the other person instead of yourself. I have been with my husband for 11 years and still find myself longing to be with him...dreaming of him at night and when I wake up, it's so real I can still smell him. You have to just work on forgetting all the small trivial stuff like leaving the seat up or squeezing in the middle of the tube and remember everyday what made you fall in love with this person in the first place. I hope this helps you.