okay so one of my friends told me that she was bi the other night, but i never told her that i was bi back. the thing is, i think i like her ((that way)) and i don't know what to do. i don't know what she thinks of me...i'm so confused! i don't think i'd want a relationship with her for a while, but i'd definatley want to fool around or something. but...she's my best friend, i shouldn't be thinking this way should i? what should i do? i'm daydreaming about her all the time. when i was with her at this church rock party thing((i go even though i'm not christian)) we had our arms linked or over eachother's shoulders and i gave her a hug every chance i got and when we were sitting in the bleachers i rested my head on her back....but idk...i want her sooo bad, but i'm scared of what could happen, i don't wanna ruin our friendship either....should i tell her i feel this way about her? and do you think i just 'like' her or do you think i'm in love with her?
agh! i don't know what to do!!
2007-02-23 17:09:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Chill out hon, it aint that big of a deal.
Maybe start by somehow slipping into a conversation with her that youre bi. Then see what happens. If nothing happens...I dont know, go out on a limb and try a little light flirting, nothing too serious. See what happens.
But do something. God only knows how many people miss incredible opportunities because theyre scared that something bad might happen. Sometimes it doesnt work out, but you live and learn. And when it does work out, its more than worth it.
I couldnt tell you what your feelings are for her. Only you know that. Just calm yourself down, think rationally and figure it out.
Hope that helps, and good luck to you.
2007-02-23 17:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus W. 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well you can tell her, however she might think that you only told her you cared about her because you like her (that way). But however if you do get into a relationship with her, and something happens like you guys get in a fight, you could lose each other forever, if you were just friends you wouldn't have the obligations of a 'relationship'. But if you don't tell her you might spend a long time wondering what could've came out of that relationship if it would've happened.
I wish you the best of luck with your endeavors.
Jeremy
2007-02-24 05:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I see stopping you is a fear of what could maybe happen if someone does something very unfriendly, like sleeping around on the other. If you're interested in her then let her know. She may have feelings for you too. It is possible to *not* screw up a relationship.
2007-02-23 21:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should come forth and tell her before it's too late. If she's a TRUE friend, then if she doesn't like you ((that way)), she'll still be your friend.
If you "like" someone you should tell them. Don't wait 'till it's too late!
Even if she says no, it's still better to be turned down than never know if there was a chance.
I suggest you tell her.
2007-02-23 17:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by J 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Awwww .... I think you'll make her the happiest gir if you tell her..Image how much better things would be between you two if you where to have something..Image the moment you finally kiss her...Dont pass the chance at something great... If it doesnt workout...If she is really yor friend...you guys will remain friends..i speak from experience..JUST TELL HER! ; )
2007-02-23 17:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be with her then you can discover whether you are bi or perhaps gay. you may want to live in a holy union with your beau for life. would you just want to walk away from that?
I wouldn't want to turn my back on my soulmate.
2007-02-23 17:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
tell her or just give some hints
2007-02-23 17:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by rnrmsc 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
just teller!
2007-02-23 17:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋