i used to talk to one of my closest girl-friends quite a bit and we hung out as much as we could. She entered a relationship about 3 1/2 months ago and i haven't talked to her since then..
she lives in a town that is right outside mine.. (that gets in the way sometimes) and is busy with school, dance team, work and this relationship.
So i was wondering if it is normal for people in relationships to tend to focus more on balancing school and a relationship than friends? keeping in mind most of her friends are in her town, not mine. This has happened before and its returned to normal after she was done with the relationship.. What do you guys think?
2007-02-23 16:54:23 · 9 answers · asked by oneal1845 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i guess its appropriate to say that shes also the girl I've been liking A LOT for the past year. I guess some of you know how it is when you fall for a close friend.. :P
2007-02-23 17:06:42 · update #1
I don't think its anything against you or the friendship that you have with this girl. Generally, and from experience, when your in a new relationship, without really thinking about it or noticing it, the new couple does tend to spend all their free or all their time period with their new mate. Most of the time they don't intend to hurt their family or close friends, but its time to get to know someone new. If your friendship means alot to her, then tell her so. Communication is always good. And, if shes a true friend, she won't be offended and she'll realize, yeah hey, and make time for you.
2007-02-23 17:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by invisiblekisses2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing of Friendship-dating -marriage tradition hinges around the concept that it is better to let youngsters get to know well of each other's likes, dislikes and attitudes and preferences, so that they can count on some as friends , and some as worth being included in an inner circle and just one as the person to get married to.In the process some do get the shock of finding that they are not in the inner circle where every little step is discussed and debated , but are only told at the end of it all.That is when one has to choose whether or not to count the other person as an inner circle friend.If you feel side-lined in favour of someone closer or better from her point of view , you can check up quickly, whether she still counts you as a friend.If the answer is evasive, be a man and give her the space she is asking for. Don't disturb her any more.If the past has been any good,treasure that memory, but don't add bitterness to it.
2007-02-23 17:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I hate to admit it but I do that to, What she is doing anyway. When I get into a relationship I pretty much ditch everyone and everything except school and i go to work....friends and family are non existent. If I get into a fight with my boyfriend or we break up I go right back to my friends and such and get hurt if they don't wanna hang out with me. I can tell it gets old though because we are not nearly as close as we once were....But as for your question of it being normal I think that it kinda is. Maybe not as extreme as not talking to you completely but it is normal for a person to focus more on a relationship. She could also have liked you or maybe her bf is controlling and won't let her have any male friends.
2007-02-23 17:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. Does she know how you feel? You should let her know and see what happens, otherwise you are wasting your time. You aren't waiting for your friend to make time for you again, but probably more are hoping for a romantic relationship? So, you might as well go for it and see if she is interested. If she is not, move on and put your energy into finding that special someone who will have loads and loads of time for you!!!
2007-02-23 18:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by melissa j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you all are still friends, you just don't see each other that much. I had a good friend like that; I should have married him instead. Anyway, it is not easy to keep friends of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship. And, it is not easy when you have alot going on in your life. You sound like a good friend, ask her what is up!
2007-02-23 16:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by HuniBuniBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal for your friend to be like that but you can only one best friend and if she is any kind of friend you should every now and again make a point to do something together once a month or so just the two of u and catch up and be straight forward and tell her how u feel
2007-02-23 16:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by featherlover2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its not fair that she has somewhat removed you out of the way. While it is true that some friends can grow apart, its always nice to make a good effort to stay in touch. If you want to try to get in touch with her, because no it is not good to be ignored. Good luck I hope things go well for you.
2007-02-23 16:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by genuine♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea this is normal.
You're just going through something different.... I guess. It just takes time for you to be able to balance everything.
2007-02-23 17:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kayla C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
def... ur totally rite, and i kno it sux, but thats the way it is! sorry
2007-02-23 16:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by impishly_adorable 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋