Why is it that when I am stressed out, I lash out at people I actually love.?

Question

I don't think I've ever lashed out at people at my work, at friends, at anybody outside of my house- It's always to the people I actually love and care about, wouldn't I be lashing out at anybody else but them, if that is the way I feel about them?

Answer 1

because you bottle up your feelings and when your family does something little to piss you off you go off on them and get upset over the things you were thinking about.

Answer 2

If you are invisible, so are 3 trillion women between the ages of 30-50. We can start a club. The dr. probably can give you some pill to be a band aid. Meaning, it covers up the bleeding but does nothing about the cause. The cause is the disrepect and being taken for granted. Catch 22 - the BETTER you are at being the "good mommie", the MORE they think that is all you are supposed to be. Think about it. Man, I just wish I could give you an inkling of how COMMON this is. I started to use the word normal, but it suggests that it is ok. It isn't ok. Yes, Virginia, there is such as thing as being "too" good, because it sends the wrong message. You have a widespread disorder... doormat syndrome. If you have a car, get in the car, and take 5 bucks to take yourself to lunch, even if it is mcdonald's. Keep the receipt, so you can turn it in as a therapy expense. Park the car, go in and sit down. If you don't have the 5 bucks, make a p-butter/ jelly sandwich and take it to the park. It will take a long time to turn "them" around to where they can acknowledge you as a person. But start with you, acknowledging it yourself.

Answer 3

You feel safe doing it that way those people are not going to stop loving you in most cases. Well with all the brain washing these days it is no longer okay to lash out at anyone really, people get to much into everyone else business so that they don't have to worry about their own messed up lives in many cases.

Answer 4

Because the rejection you would face at work and anywhere else would be much more permanent. Those close to you most likely understand that when you are stressed out, you tend to be a bit easier to aggravate. Those who aren't so close will think you're just a mean person and act accordingly.

Answer 5

Because stress is a major cause of various illnesses like migraines, stroke and may weaken the immune system.Noise pollution, hectic lifestyle and chronic illness are some of the major factors causing stress .Breathing techniques, self understanding, exercise and meditation are some of the popular stress management techniques used. More details and remedies at http://mshn.org/

Answer 6

Its called displaced temper (I think there is another simuliar name too)
Displaced Anger

A way anger affects families is through displacement of anger from one system (i.e., work) to another system (i.e., home). Parents who had a rough day at work don't automatically shed their frustrations on the way home. They can bring it home and react to other family members in a hostile and abusive manner. One answer why family members direct their anger at people they know and love is that it is safer to vent with people they know will not abandon them. The boss may fire someone for venting at them or another employee. A teacher may give a student a bad report for acting out at school. But family members usually stick by you, even if you get angry. Unfortunately, chronic venting at loved one's will result in negative consequences. It breaks down members' ability to feel safe and trust one another.

Answer 7

It's because your closest to them. Everyone does it! The people closest catch the brunt of it...venting turns into anger directed toward the person you're venting to sometimes.

Answer 8

Because you know that you cannot get away with it with strangers. Most people would tell you to go to hell and you know it.

Answer 9

Since you are closer to them you know they will forgive you and be there after you have calmed down, even if you have belittled them.