When cleaning in our bedroom I found a condom on his dresser
2007-02-23 16:28:04 · 44 answers · asked by TC 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetie,if you don't use them there's a strong possibility. Hows things sexually between you, have you prehaps fallen into a rut? You mainly (I think) fall in love with someone cos they make you feel good about yourself. Butterflies in the stomach only lasts so long but is replaced by something far more stable and yes I think better. Love is about acceptance warts and all (not however to your own detriment) I wouldn't attack him, if he's having an affair or considering it he probably already feels alienated by you. Your instincts should come in to play here, has their been a change in your relationship? does he avoid you? start stupid arguements (usually it makes the cheating one feel better about their infidelity if they can blame you)
If you really want the truth, either way, I'd keep quiet for now, look for tell tale signs. If you give someone enough rope, they hang always hang themselves.
Ask yourself the question: If he is, do you want him back? If you do then fight for him without him even knowing you have doubts.
2007-02-24 00:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Terry T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so i take it that's its not your guys and that no time in like the past 6 months have you guys bought or had any left over in your home? that being said if you have to ask you know the answer all ready this can not be the only thing to make you think he is because if you trust him and really down deep don't believe he is then your first thought would be where did this come from or who gave him this not he is sleeping with someone so when you really search your heart and think about it you know but if you want to act like you don't or need for him to tell you to your face ask him but don't expect a honest answer because 9 times out of ten he is going to lie and some people will say if he was why would he leave it out for you to find it.....why because he wanted you to find it and he wants you to know most people are asking to be caught that's why most people are and then its up to their spouse on how to either deal with it or walk out so think about it and then confront him and go from there! good luck!
2007-02-23 16:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh no.
Here's how you confront him. Ask him why was there a condom on his dresser?
Now, check his eyes.
If he looks sideways and looks more to the left and gets argumentive, you better get yourself a marriage counselor. That means he is lying...
absolutely,
positively,
right on the nose cheating on you.
Don't do investigating anymore because it is too much on a strain on you, because then you are at a lost cause.
2007-02-23 16:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I found a condom in my husbands dresser too - it was strawberry flavor. But it was in the bathroom at the shop!! When I confronted him he said one of the guys kept it there because he couldn't bring it home so his wife doesn't find out. I think we should talk.
2007-02-23 16:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
did he leave it out in the open for you to see? Do you two use them as a source of protection? I assume you don't or u wouldn't ask the ? If he isn't , since it obviously wasn't used, I would assume he is at least considering sexual activity other than with you, but that does not constitute an affair. The best answer is... ASK HIM!
2007-02-23 16:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by heart&soul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you do not use them, I would be suspicious. My ex huband had an affair. I wouldnt say anything just yet, just watch for other signs (mysterious phone calls, he starts sleeping in another room, lack of intmacy, doesnt kiss you or hug you, wont talk to you on the phone or keeps it real short & starts not saying I love you back over the phone. Good Luck
2007-02-23 16:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't use condoms then the answer is probably yes.
Sometimes people leave evidence on purpose because they want to be found out.
You need to confront him. If he gets angry or defensive, or won't look you in the eye, or gives you answers which have little detail in them, it's very likely that he is lying.
2007-02-23 19:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he doesn't use condoms with you then there's a good possibility he's having an affair.
The only possible explanations he could come up with are:
My friend gave it to me...Hmmm
I got a free sample in the men's room... Hmmm
I was going to make a water balloon...Hmmm
It was cold outside so I put a hat on it...Hmmm
I'd love to hear his explanation.
2007-02-23 16:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was actually planning on phucking you, unless, of course it was used, in which case he's not only cheating on you but also is a sick bastard for being willing to carry around a used condom. You have to be a bit more specific about the nature of the condom.
2007-02-23 16:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dont use condoms with him then I would say yes you have a problem.
However, I cant imagine a man would be idiot enough to leave it out on his dresser.
2007-02-23 16:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by Esperenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋