baby daddy trouble?

Question

Ok I had my baby boy on da 12th of dis month and my baby's daddy won't call or come see him or anything.. When i saw his sister at dat mall she told her boifriend dat i am A S**t and i don't know who my baby daddy is. Last nite i went to take my son to see his mom amd dad..and when he saw us in da house he told his mom dat i shouldn't be there and my son isn't his.. what can i do i want him to be in my son's life!!! please help!!

TO: expectant mommy and vicky l.
First off shutt up cause ain't no body tell ya'll to post negative sh**t.. dat is soo stupid of ya'll to post stuff like dat ya'll really need to grow up!!!

Answer 1

Being a mom at 16 isnt what you thought it would be is it. Anyways ignore these negetive posters because they want to be a part of the problem not a part of the solution. You need to speak to a lawyer/legal aide. You are probably low income so it should be free. second get child support from him, sue him if neccessary, and if he is over 18 charge him with statuatory rape.

P.s. Im not saying this to be mean but dont get pregnant again for quite a while, and also stay in school.

Answer 2

You sound like those girls on Maury, most of them ask why they got pregnant and they never know who "da" father is. They have to have like 10 paternity tests done and STILL never find the father. I do feel bad the father is not taking resonsibility and it is a shame you are in that kind of mess, but instead of dwelling on it, why dont you take legal actions. Get a paternity test to prove he is the father first then take him to court for child support. If he refuses to take a test, get an attorney and ask for advice on what to do. If he runs away or you just lose all contact with him, then let it go. You should've thought about that before you slept with him. You must've realized that this could happen to you especially if you were having sex with him without discussing if you were to get pregnant. THat is why you need a full commitment. And if your "boifriend" or your "baby daddy" just leaves completely, then I'm sorry to say, but get over it, you have a beautiful baby boy to take care of and you chasing after his father wont do any good. But good luck

Answer 3

Don't go over there any more until you take a paternity test.And be prepared because rumors are going to spread and you will be called more than that.That's why I try my hardest to tell young women not to have children out of wedlock there are too many loose ends and to much drama that comes along with it.You don't have that security that a married woman would have.Anyone can make a baby but it takes a man to step up to the plate and be a father and help raise that baby.Get that paternity test and if he still doesn't help out take him to court and get child support.It's ashame that you are in this situation you can't force him in this child's life.Stay away from his house until the test is done.If his parents want to see your son you guys can meet up somewhere.But him calling you out of your name is no excuse even if he is scared.Good luck

Answer 4

Well, it's his loss because he's missing out on precious moments of his child's life. My sister had a baby 8 months ago, and for the first 2 monts he was real involved then by as months passed he lost interest only visiting him twice or once a month. In his opinion, he can't wait till he's older so he can do more. If i were you, if his name is on the birth certificate then maybe you should go to court and see if you can't get child support out of him.(That's what my Sister did) But I know exactly how you feel because of my sister. HOpe it works out for ya!

Answer 5

Sounds like the daddy is a piece of ****. If he doesnt want to be involved unless you want child support (you'd have to have a paternity test) I would just leave him alone and find a better man to be a dad to your little one.Not every sperm donor is meant to be a daddy, I feel bad for your baby but it's not his fault or yours either. I hope you find a loving man who will be there for the both of you. Give the prick some distance and let him come to you if he wants and if thats what you want. Hang in there.

Answer 6

Go to family services and start the proceedings to get child support and if he tries to deny paternity, they can easily order a paternity test and make him find out. If he's truly the dad then sounds like a jerk and better to just get the paperwork out of the way early on as he should support his child financially even if he's useless emotionally.

Answer 7

You should get a paternity test, maybe with proof the alleged father will be more involved in the childs life. If you file for child support they will give you choices on paternity test and other help that you might need.

Answer 8

Take him to court. File for child support and the court will make him take a DNA test to find out if its truly his. You can never make a man do something he does not want. He is probably scared and doesn't know how to handle the responsibilities. Good Luck

Answer 9

Make him take a paternity test (take him to court) and report t... he'll come around if not he will be paying child support (make sure of that) other than that, IT"S HIS LOST... Take care of your son be theo child service. greatest mother you can be...Children are gifts even at any age or status ..you lucky to be blessed with a baby.. Everything happens for a reason...Good luck hun

Answer 10

So sorry to hearken to about the hardship. some adult males.... First, and that i know you've determined what you opt for to do, yet have you ever considered adoption? i know that it might want to be very difficult to do, yet perhaps it might want to help your existence consisting of your first infant and BD, plus supply a tremendous existence to this new infant? merely an decision. That stated, perhaps he will come round. merely keep in mind that you would fairly be on your individual for a lengthy time period. and also you know the position he stands with no longer desiring this one, so in arguments down the line, that would want to arise back. I grew up with my father treating my brother very distinct than he dealt with me. that is no longer purely difficult on the newborn that receives left out or dealt with badly. it is also very difficult for the "prominent" to confirm and understand. outdoors of all of that, perhaps locate a community team or church or something with moms round your age and with similar situations. Get each of the assist you could from human beings you could position self assurance in. issues will proceed to get more durable with this infant and also you want that "village" that could also help you out. And by all potential, at the on the spot are not making any extra toddlers with this guy! :-) It would not sound like he's guy adequate to adhere by you and be the relations you and those youngsters want! sturdy luck!