I am a newely wed and right after we got married i went into this deep depression and lost all interest in sex. Well my husband wanted it everyday all day if he could.He was lucky if he got it twice a month.Well some things got better for us and it felt like we just got together i was for it all the time!!BUT now he never wants it. This is soo hard for me he went from asking me almost every night to me practially begging him This is causing alot of stress on both of us !! Any ideas?
2007-02-23 16:18:01 · 9 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like he's giving you a taste of your own medicene. Talk, talk, talk,.....talk is the best foreplay.
2007-02-23 16:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta agree with Kathy. I think that now that the tables are turned he finally feels like he has the power and is using it. I disagree on the counseling though I personally believe in working out problems one on one, and feel that the introduction of a foreign individual to your relationship can actually be detrimental to it. I would say that sitting down with him in a calm and neutral place where he wont feel threatened might be the best thing to do first. Try talking to him and explain how you feel thoroughly without using a nagging or demeaning tone men hate that, and also allow him to express what he is thinking wether it is verbally or physically without criticizm dont make him feel like you are belittling what he says, some women come off like that and make us feel like it's all about them(Men hate that too) and no one else when in a relationship it should be about both of you. If none of this works then you should try counseling, but he may also just be acting childish and enacting his revenge, just try the above mentioned... What do you have to lose?
2007-02-23 16:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rayman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well back up a minute--slow down---what did you think married life was all about?? You probably thought it was going to be fun and games, sex and rolling around all day in the sack----I have a notion you two entered with no thought to the committment, the sacrifices, the stresses and pressures, the demands of married life. It is supposed to be nice but it doesn't take long to bad fast---and getting back to normal takes even longer. Relax, stop thinking about it--enjoy what you can and then learn to communicate your feelings to each other--be understanding and do not over react. Take one day at a time. Good luck
2007-02-23 17:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to just calm down a little bit. It is probably the stress of being newlywed. Give it a little time to even out.
2007-02-23 16:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jon's Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's normal for some women to experience depression after their wedding. and it's good that you came out of that and i'm sure that your husband was excited about it, but men still need that challenge. if you make it too easy for him, it's not as fun for him. stop begging. this should work itself out if you play your cards right. don't ask for sex, don't even mention it and let him see you changing clothes or catch a peek of you getting out of the shower (of course, don't let him know that you're doing this on purpose). touch him as often as possible in non sexual ways. like touching his arm when you speak to him. also let him see you touching yourself in non sexual ways like running your fingers along your collar bone, neck or lips when you speak. this is not sex related, but will make him think about sex. if all else fails, see a therapist. good luck hun!
2007-02-23 16:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are both holding grudges at one another about this, you both swallow your pride and have a romantic night out and later at home enjoy, if this does not work see a marriage therapist.
2007-02-23 16:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by sidekick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are really strange. If he doesn't t want to have sex with you, it might be a sign that he is cheating on you. I have never heard of a male not wanting to have sex. He could of found some one else. Have your tried asking him what's wrong?? If he avoids the subject or tells you that nothing is wrong he is definitely cheating on you.
2007-02-23 16:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by princess froggie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not beg ever for sex...try to look sexy and make him want you so bad...temptation is the key. If it does not work he probably is pretty damn upset about your rejection in the past. So, mature adult conversation would help in this case...Good Luck.
2007-02-23 16:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by cutelovableme4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
counseling for both of you....I would bet he's withholding because he can...
2007-02-23 16:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋